As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” But before you can begin this process of transformation¹ you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

玛丽亚-罗宾森说过：“没有人可以回到过去重新开始，但每一个人都可以从现在开始，创造全新的未来。” 但是在你开始转变之前，必须停止做那些阻碍你前行的事情。

Here are some ideas to get you started:

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1. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble² and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately³ molds us into the person we become.

不要逃避问题——要面对它们。但是，这并不容易，我们没法立刻解决问题。在遇到问题时，我们会本能地心烦意乱、悲伤、痛苦、踌躇、情绪低落。 因为这就是生活的全部意义——随着时间的推移，去面对问题，然后去学习、适应，从而解决问题。通过这样的方式，生活把我们塑造成了现在的样子。

2. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

不要欺骗自己。——在这个世界上，你可以对任何人说谎，但是不能欺骗自己。只有在我们抓住机遇时，生活才能得以改善。而要想这样，我们最先要尝试的也是最难的，就是对自己诚实。

3. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

不要总是把自己的需要放在后面。——人世间最痛苦的事情莫过于，爱别人爱得过深，在爱的过程中失去了自我，从而忘记了自己有多么特别。是的，我们要帮助他人；但是也要自助。如果你还没有追随自己的激情，还没有做一些对自己来说重要的事情，那么现在就开始做吧。

4. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

不要努力成为别人。——在一个总想把你变成他人的世界中，做好自己是人生的一大挑战。总是有人比你可爱、比你聪明、比你年轻。但是他们都不是你。不要去改变来让大家去喜欢你。做好你自己，会有对的人爱上真正的你。

5. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

不要沉迷于过去。——如果你一直沉迷于过去， 就无法开启生活的新篇章。

6. Stop berating⁴ yourself for old mistakes. – No matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

不要因为过去的错误而自责。——无论事情错得有多么离谱，有一点可以肯定：错误能帮助我们找到正确的人和事。我们都会犯错、遇到困难，甚至后悔过去的事情。但生活中发生的每件事情都会为还没来到的那一刻做准备。

7. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive⁵ action. Making progress involves risk.

不要只想不做。——不要想得太多，否则你会创造新的问题。对情况进行评估，然后果断行动。要想进步，就要冒险。

8. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

不要总是觉得自己还没有准备好。——当机遇降临时，没有人会百分百完全准备好。因为生活中大部分的机遇会使我们脱离习惯的舒适区，这也就意味着，一切在开始时我们不会感到很自在。

9. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

不要和别人竞争。——不要担心别人做得比你好。集中精力，每天打破自己的记录。成功只是你和你自己之间的战争。

10. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy⁶ is the art of counting someone else’s blessings⁷ instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

不要嫉妒他人。——嫉妒实际上是在历数别人的幸福，而不是自己的。问问自己：“什么东西别人都想要，而我已经拥有了？”

11. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

不要重复做同样的事情也不歇歇。——越是很忙的时候越要休息。如果你一直做同样的事情，你会一直得到相同的结果。有时，你需要自己离远一点儿来把事情看清。

12. Stop overlooking⁸ the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

不要忽视美妙的小瞬间。——享受小事情，因为有一天当你回顾过去时，你会发现它们反而是大事儿。生活中最美妙的部分，是你向对自己重要的人微笑时的那些琐碎又难以形容的时刻。

13. Stop acting⁹ like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

不如意时，不要假装一切都好。——偶尔的崩溃也未尝不可。不要总是假装坚强，没有必要去证明一切都好。你不要去想别人会怎么想，想哭就哭吧！流流泪对身体有好处。你越早这样做，你就能越快微笑起来。

14. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

不要过度担心。——担心不会减轻明天的负担，它只会减少今天的快乐。有一种方式可以判断某件事情是不是值得自己仔细思考：“这件事一年以后还重要吗？三年后呢？五年后呢？” 如果答案是否定的，那么它根本就不值得你去烦恼。

15. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

不要关注你不想发生的事情。——关注你想发生的事情。每个成功故事的首页都写着积极思考。如果你每天早晨醒来，都想着今天生活中会发生的好事儿，多加关注，你会发现事实确实如此。