1. 不要娇惯我。我知道的非常清楚，不是我要什么就能得到什么的。有时我只是在试探你。

1. Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I'm only testing you.

2. 不要害怕在我面前坚持你的立场。我其实更喜欢你这样，因为这使我有安全感。

2. Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it, it makes me feel secure.

3. 不要让我养成坏毛病。只有你才能在把它们消灭在萌芽状态。

3. Don't let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.

4. 不要让我感觉自己比实际要小，那样只能使我愚蠢地去充“大”个。

4. Don't make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly "big".

5. 如果有可能，不要当众教训我。如果你在私下悄悄跟我说，我会更加注意的。

5. Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. I'll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.

6. 不要让我感觉自己犯的错误就像犯了罪一样，那只能搞乱我的价值观。

6. Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.

7. 不要阻止我承担后果，有时我需要从教训中学习。

7. Don't protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.

8. 当我说“我恨你”时，不要生气。有时我恨的不是你，我恨的只是你那令我感到很渺小的权威。

8. Don't be too upset when I say "I hate you". Sometimes it isn't you I hate but your power to thwart¹ me.

9. 我得了小病时，不要太在意我。有时生病可以使我得到我所需要的关注。

9. Don't take too much notice of my small ailments². Sometimes they get me the attention I need.

10. 不要啰啰嗦嗦的。如果你那样的话，我只能通过装聋作哑来保护自己。

10. Don't nag³. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.

11. 不要忘记，有时我会词不达意。这也是为什么我有时不能准确地表达自己。

11. Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. That is why I am not always accurate.

12. 当我问问题时，不要不耐烦。否则，你会发现我不再问你问题，而是从别的地方寻找答案。

12. Don't put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.

13. 不要出尔反尔，这样只能是我疑惑，并对你失去信任。

13. Don't be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.

14. 不要对我说我的恐惧是可笑的。它们是真真实实的，如果你能理解我，你就能更好地安慰我。

14. Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure⁴ me if you try to understand.

15. 永远不要暗示你是完美的和不会犯错误的。否则当我发现事实与此相反时，我会感到很震惊的。

15. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither .

16. 永远不要认为向我道歉有损你的尊严。一个诚实的道歉会使我感到温暖并加深我们的感情。

16. Don't ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm towards you.

17. 不要忘了我喜欢尝试。如果我不尝试就寸步难行，所以请你包容。

17. Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get along without it, so please put up with it.

18. 不要忘了我长得很快。你肯定觉得与我俱进非常困难，但是还是请你努力去做。

18. Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me, but please do try.

19. 不要忘了离开了厚爱和理解我不会茁壮成长，但是，这一点我不需要提醒你吧？

19. Don't forget that I don't thrive without lots of love and understanding, but I don't need to tell you, do I?

20. 请保持身体健康，因为我需要你。

20. Please keep yourself fit and healthy. I need you.