We seek advice on a daily basis, on everything from who grills¹ the best burger in town to how to handle a sticky situation with a coworker. However, many people don't fully² appreciate how powerful requesting guidance can be. Soliciting³ advice will arm you with information you didn't have before, but there are other benefits you may not have considered.

我们每天都会向他人寻求建议，小到如何制作一个美味的汉堡，大到就如何处理和同事糟糕的关系。不过，许多人都没有领悟到询问意见的好处。询问建议除了可以获取你所不知道的信息之外，还有一些你所不知道的作用。

1. Advisors⁴ will like you more.

1. 对方会更欣赏你。

Being asked for advice is inherently flattering because it's an implicit⁶ endorsement⁷ of our opinions, values, and expertise⁸. Furthermore, it works equally well up and down the hierarchy⁹ — subordinates are delighted and empowered by requests for their insights, and superiors appreciate the deference¹⁰ to their authority and experience.

被咨询意见在某种意义上是一种称赞，因为这是一种对我们的观点，价值观，以及专业技能的含蓄的认可。再者，这对于每一个阶层都受用——下属会因为被询问意见而感到快乐和被重视，上司会因为自己的权威和经验受到尊重。

2. Advisors are able to see things from your perspective.

2. 对方能够从你的角度分析事情。

Think about the last time someone came to you for advice. Most likely, you engaged in an instinctive¹¹ mental exercise: you tried to put yourself in the other person's shoes and imagine the world through their eyes.

想一想上次别人寻求你的建议的情况。大多数情况下，你会陷入本能的心理活动：你尝试把自己代入别人角色之中并从他的角度看待事情。

3. Advisors become a champion for your cause.

3. 对方会成为你的智囊团。

A third benefit of soliciting adversaries¹² for advice is that they become your champions. When someone offers you advice, it represents an investment of his time and energy. Your request empowers your advisor⁵ to make good on their recommendations and become an advocate for your cause.

询问建议还有一个好处就是提建议者会成为有助你成功的智囊团。当别人给你提供建议的时候，对于他/她来说是一种时间和能量的投入，你向他/她寻求意见，促使对方尽自己的能力给你最好的建议，助你成功。