For a lot of young people, the first really big letdown of life comes with being denied¹ by their college of choice. All of the disappointment² can be really tough to take, but there is a bright side and it's all going to be okay. Here are some tips to help you through.

对很多年轻人来讲，人生面对的第一次比较大的失望，便是收到申请高校的拒信。任何失望都令人难以接受，但这也有好的一面，这一切终将过去。下面是帮助你度过难关的一些建议：

1. Know that it's normal, especially these days.

1.现在的社会，失败乃人生常事

A lot of people don't get accepted by their first choice school, or even their second or third choices. It's been happening forever. Give yourself a break. You're entering college during a difficult time, and a lot of students are going through the same stuff³ you're going through.

很多学生第一志愿，甚至二三志愿都会被拒绝，这再平常不过。放松心情，你在上大学这件事上碰了钉子，其他学生也正遭遇同样的事情。

2. Take a good long look around.

2.看向你的周围

Look around, talk to your friends, and notice that yes, people are excited, and yes, people are terrified⁴. Not everyone is moving into something that they're feeling really great about, and many are feeling a little down on themselves about that.

看看周围，找朋友们聊聊天。是的，他们有人很兴奋；同时，也有人很沮丧。不是所有人都那么开心，有些人和你一样也会遇到不开心的事情。

3. You learn something when you struggle.

3.奋斗会使你成长

Some of the best lessons of life come from times when you feel like you lost the game. "Losing" makes us stronger. It helps us become better people. You grow more when things do not go well than when they do. It's not easy, but it is worth it in the long run.

“输”的时候你反而会学到更多东西。“失败”使我们更加强大，也帮助我们变得更好。逆境能让你成长更多。度过艰难时刻不易，但长远来看，这并不是坏事。

4. It's just like any other rejection…

4.这和其他“拒绝”没什么两样

It doesn't feel good to feel you've been rejected. If you really had your heart set on a plan and now you need to change your thinking, it's an adjustment!

被拒绝的感受并不好。如果你当初坚决要走这条路，现在可以试着转变一下思想了，要学会调节。

5. It wasn't meant to be.

5.这并不是命运的安排

Our fates⁵ and futures⁶ are our design, but sometimes things throw us off our intended course. You're going to see, down the road, why this wasn't meant to be, and that something else was. And, you'll feel as though you wouldn't change a thing.

命运和未来都在我们自己手中，但总有意外会发生。你要认真去想想，为什么这不是命中注定，而有些事却是呢。然后你就会明白，其实并没有改变什么。