Chinese women who are dating non-Chinese guys often express various issues which displease¹ them – and the issues are mostly due to cultural differences and a lack of understanding. One of our forum² readers from Pakistan sent us a list of what he considers the ten most common complaints of Chinese girlfriends.

中国女人同外籍男友交往时经常会抱怨许多她们愤怒的事情，而这些事情主要是因文化差异和缺少了解所造成的。《中国日报》论坛的一位巴基斯坦读者给我们寄来了一张清单，列举了他认为的中国女友经常会抱怨的10大事项。

1. You don't carry my handbag!

1.你不帮我拎包！

Most foreign boyfriends believe that carrying a handbag of a girlfriend is basically³ the opposite of manliness⁴. But this is a very common demand of Chinese girlfriends. Chinese girls usually carry useless and unnecessary stuff⁵ in their bags and the reason is only because they want to have a bag so that their boyfriend will carry it for them. And foreign boyfriends don't like to carry their handbag.

大部分外籍男友基本认为帮女友拎包缺乏男子气概。但这却是中国女友最常见的要求。中国女友总是放一些没有用的，不需要的物品在包里，只是想要她们的男友帮他们拎着。而外籍男友外出都不爱带包。

2. You don't text or call me three times a day!

2.你不时常联系我！

Chinese girlfriends usually demand that you stay in contact with them during the day and show that you care for them by calling or sending them text messages at least two or three times a day. This will not change - so you need to adopt this habit if you wish to have a long-term relationship.

中国女友总要求你每天和她们保持联系，每天打两三次电话或发短信表达你对她们的关心。这一点是不会改变的。所以要是你想要同她们长久交往，你需要适应这一点。

3. You don't meet me often!

3.你不经常见我！

If you don't visit or meet your girlfriend often she will call you selfish and this is a word Chinese girls use if you don't do something they want. They will not miss any chance to call you selfish. However, for foreigners this word does not seem so strong and they consider it quite normal to be called selfish - but for Chinese this is not the case.

要是你不时常见你的女友，她会认为你自私。如果你没有做中国女孩想让你做的事情，她们就会认为你自私。她们不会错过任何指责你自私的机会。然而，对于外国人而言，自私这词似乎并没有那么严重，他们认为被称作自私是很正常的。但是对于中国人而言就不是这样子了。

4. Give less time to your friends!

4.少和你朋友待在一起！

Sometimes, Chinese girls will complain that they don't like your friends, but this is not exactly true: They just want the guy to spend less time with his friends and more with them. They want you to spend more time with your girlfriend instead of hanging out and meeting your friends.

有时，中国女友会抱怨说她们不喜欢你的朋友，但是并非完全如此：她们只是想你少和朋友待在一起，多和她在一起。她们想要更多的二人世界，而不是外出会见朋友。

5. Why don't you take me to the bar?

5.为什么不带我去酒吧？

She will often complain that you don't take her when you go out to a bar and she will accuse you of not taking her because of various reasons. She will tell you that you don't like her attitude in the club as she makes you stay by her side the whole time.

你去酒吧时，她经常会抱怨你不带她一起，她会因各种原因指责你不带她同往。她会说你不喜欢她在酒吧的态度，因为她要你一直待在她身边。

6. No fashion sense

6.没有时尚感

She wants you to dress like she wants you to dress and she wants you to look like she wants you to look. Chinese dress sense is very different to other countries and it's quite difficult to follow, so get ready to face such complaints sooner or later.

她想要你按照她的想法着装装扮。中国的穿衣品味同其他国家的截然不同，很难遵循，所以做好早晚面对这类抱怨的准备吧。

7. You don't know Chinese culture.

7.你不了解中国文化

You will hear this sentence very often from your Chinese girlfriend - that you should learn more about Chinese culture and start following it. She will always demand that you follow her culture and not so much your own culture.

你的中国女友经常会说你要多学习中国文化。她总是要求你学习她的文化，却不怎么学习你的文化。

8. Eat more!

8.多吃点！

It sounds weird⁶ but it's true: A Chinese girlfriend will suggest that you eat more and "get healthier". The more you eat the healthier you will be - this is a Chinese saying and they truly follow it and try it on their boyfriends.

听起来很怪异但却是事实：中国女友会建议你多吃“更健康”。中国谚语一一吃得越多越健康。她们切实地遵循了，并且让她们的男友也这样做。

9.Eat less!

9.少吃点！

Sooner or later you will start eating more and another complaint you will get is that you eat so much. Your Chinese girlfriend will start saying that you should eat less and this will be good for your health. Suddenly, the above-mentioned Chinese saying and perception⁷ will change.

早晚你会开始多吃，但你会听到另一个抱怨一一你吃太多了。你的中国女友会开始说你应该少吃点，这有益于你的健康。一下子，上面提到的中国谚语和看法都变了。

10. Shopping

10.购物

Last but not least, Chinese girlfriends will complain to you that you do not take her shopping. Yes! She is right - take her shopping often, even window shopping. She wants to hang out with you. And sometimes she just wants you to spend your money on her. Soon after the shopping trip, she will say something like: I thought you are selfish but you are not.

最后，中国女友会抱怨你没有带她去购物。是的！她是正确的。记得经常带她购物，即便只是隔着窗户看看。她想要和你闲逛。有时她想要你在她身上花些钱。购物后不久，她就会说：“过去我认为你自私，但现在你并非如此。”