We all want others to like us. Deep down in our hearts we all want to feel supported, respected, and, most importantly, loved.

我们都希望别人喜欢自己。内心深处，我们都渴望被支持、被尊重，更重要的是，被爱。

Yet, unfortunately, for many of us this is much easier said then done. We can feel like we always fall short in finding this love that we so desire to experience.

然而不幸的是，对很多人来说，这说起来容易做起来难。我们觉得总是找不到自己渴望拥有的爱。

Here's the thing: Many of us waste our energy on things that aren't really positively¹ serving us. We worry about whether someone will like us or not. We obsess² about a past relationship that didn't work. We go on a first date with this underlying³ fear of "Will I be rejected?"

事实是这样：很多人把精力浪费在对我们没有帮助的事情上。我们担心某人是否喜欢自己；我们执着于一段不欢而散的感情；初次约会时，我们心里一直想着：“我会被拒绝吗？”

The trouble is that when we do these things, we allow all these things to suck away our energy, which prevents us from truly standing⁴ in our own unique power.

问题是，当我们这么做的时候，我们让这些琐事吸取了自己的精力，阻碍我们真正屹立于自己独特的力量中。

And you know what? It's not very attractive. Other people can feel that energy and they know and feel your fear.

而且你知道吗？这样可是非常没有魅力的。别人感受得到这种力量，他们能感觉到你的恐惧。

So what can we do to truly love and have more confidence in ourselves so that we can truly be irresistibly⁵ attractive?

那么我们要怎么做才能真正学会爱、能更有自信、变得更有魅力呢？

#1 - Take care of yourself.

#1- 照顾好自己

Go out and exercise. Eat healthy. Take the time periodically check-in with your body. If you feel exhausted⁶, then take the time to rest. If you feel energized⁷ then make sure you get out there and channel that energy into some great work or work out!

出门锻炼、健康饮食、定期花时间做体检。如果感到累了，就停下来休息一会儿。如果感到精力充沛，就出门走走，把精力花在工作或是健身上。

#2 - Do what you love to do.

#2- 做自己喜欢的事

Even though we can't always control avoiding the things that we hate to do, we can find time to do the things that we love to do! If you've always wanted to learn how to paint, then start painting. If you love dancing, then go out dancing!

即使我们不能永远避免做自己讨厌的事，我们也要抽出时间来做自己喜欢的事。要是你想学画画已经想了很久了，那么就拿起画笔吧！如果你爱跳舞，你可以赶紧跳起来啊！

#3 - Believe in you.

#3- 相信自己

Believe that you are capable of really having what your heart desires. Believe that you do truly deserve love. Know that you are good enough... you are worthy⁸!

相信自己能得到心之所向，相信自己值得被爱，相信自己足够优秀，值得一切！