The Truth Is, I Don't 'Have It All Together'

不，我没有你们眼中那么完美

Recently I have had a few friends and family members comment to me, 'you seem to always have it all together.'

最近，我的一些朋友和家人评价我说，“你看起来总是那么完美。”

I want people, especially other moms out there to know that: I try, but the truth is, I don't 'have it all together.'

我想要大家，尤其是那些妈妈们知道：我的确在努力做到完美，但现实是，我没有那么完美。

In today's world, so many parents think they need to live up to a stereotype¹ that in my personal opinion, completely hinders² our abilities to enjoy the true meaning of life.

当今社会，很多父母认为他们必须维持一贯的刻板形象，但是在我看来，这套理论彻底阻碍了我们享受生命真正的意义。

So in honor of my photos of my beautiful 4 children and endless built up laundry, it's OK.

看在那些我4个漂亮的孩子的照片的份上，还有没完没了的推挤如山的脏衣服面前，一切都无所谓了。

It's ok to have laundry piled to the ceiling, it's ok to have dishes backed up in your sink, it's ok for your house to not look like a show home on a daily basis.

脏衣服堆到天花板没关系，盘子堆满水槽没关系，每天你家里看起来乱七八糟也没关系。

We all do it. Whether we admit it or not, just know when you feel overwhelmed³, you are not alone.

我们都是这样。无论我们是否承认，只要知道，当你不知所措的时候，你并不孤独，就好了。

You are doing your best, so keep doing it.

你一直在尽最大努力，那么坚持下去吧。

The happiness you bring to your children is not measured by what you own, what you buy, or what your house looks like on a daily basis.

你带给孩子们最大的幸福不是用你拥有什么，你买了什么或者每天你屋里的样子来衡量。

Happiness ismeasured by the time spent and memories made with your children and your family.

幸福是根据你每天陪你的孩子和家人多久，给他们留下多少回忆来衡量的。

Don't ever forget that, don't ever forget to actually love what matters.

永远不要忘记这一点，不要忘了去爱真正值得爱的一切。