Men might not like coming to women to get dating advice, but that's dumb. No one is going to think a man has any less sexual or romantic prowess just because he's looking for some insights from someone who identifies as being female.

男人可能不愿意向女性寻求约会建议，这才是愚蠢之处。没有人会因为男人向女人寻求见解而看轻他的性能力或浪漫能力。

If anything, it speaks to your understanding of women as a whole if you're man enough to know that you don't know as much about women as you would like to and that you are willing to do your homework. And what men think about their own prowess will determine their success in dating.

如果有人这么以为，那这只能表明他/她对女性的整体理解有误。如果你够man，你就会知道你对女性的了解并没有你所以为的那么深，你也会愿意做这方面的功课。而男性对自身魅力的看法将决定他们的约会是否成功。

Women see the world differently from men, and while that's part of what makes the man-woman dynamic so much fun, it can also be a source of serious frustration¹, particularly when it comes to romance.

女性看待世界的方式与男性不同，虽然也因此使得男女搭配的世界如此有趣，但这也可能是极度挫折的导火索，尤其是在浪漫方面。

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1. Use your ears.

1. 用耳朵倾听。

"Sometimes we just want you to listen. Don't try to help, don't try to do anything other than just be there and listen."

"有时候，你只要做到倾听就行了。别试图帮助我们，你只要陪着我们、听我们诉苦，不用做其它事。"

2. Listening is sometimes better than doing.

2. 有时候，听比做更得人心。

"If I'm thirsty, I don't want you to bring me a glass of water. I want you to sympathize. I want you to say: 'Gloria, I too know what it feels like to be thirsty. I, too, have had a dry mouth.'"

"如果我渴了，我并不需要你给我递一瓶水。我需要你有同样的感受。我希望你说：'Gloria，我太清楚口渴是什么感受了，我也渴的要死。'"

3. Don't try to "win" kissing.

3. 不要潦草亲吻。

"Take your time when kissing, it's not a race."

"亲吻的时候不要急，又不是比赛。"

4. Learn her body.

4. 了解她的身体。

"I had a woman show me the proper way to 'pull' a woman's hair. Another one showed me the sensitivity of the neck and behind the ear. All great stuff. The women love it."

"有位女性给我演示了拨弄女性头发的正确方式。另一位给我演示了女性颈部和耳后的敏感度。真是让我涨知识。女人都喜欢这样。"

5. Outsource your dating profile.

5. 包装约会历史。

"Not so much advice, but my dating profile was more or less created by my female friends. I made mine initially² and apparently³ it was terrible. They did an excellent job."

"没有太多建议，但我的约会历史或多或少是由我的女性朋友帮忙编写的。最初，我自己写了这方面的经历，糟糕透顶。女性朋友帮了我不少忙。"

6. Words matter.

6. 言语很重要。

"There's a big difference between a nice guy and a good guy."

"那个家伙不错和那个家伙真好还是存在很大差异的。"

7. Don't try to change her.

7. 不要试图改变她。

"You can't change a woman's mind, you can only change her mood."

"你无法改变女性的思想，但你可以改变她的心情呀！"