We live in a world where criticizing people and focusing on negative attributes seems to be the social norm.

我们生活在一个这样的世界里：人们恣意批评他人，专注于消极情绪，而这些似乎成为了社会规范。

It’s an unfortunate aspect of life and many people well into adulthood¹ still struggle with their own self confidence. It’s also unfortunate that these same people may be missing out in life because they don’t believe in themselves, or they don’t believe that they deserve the good things in life. This is simply not true.

这是生活中不幸的一面，许多人就算在成年后仍也旧在为自信而奋斗，这些人可能在生活中迷失了自己，因为他们不相信自己，或者他们不相信他们值得拥有生活中美好的东西，这对他们来说也是不幸的。这就是不对的。

It all begins within yourself, and you have to want to change things for the better. If you can’t change your environment, you can at least change your own ways.

这一切都源于你自己，你必须要为变得更好而改变。如果你不能改变环境，你至少可以改变自己的方式。

1. Get good at something

有一技之长

Sometimes all it takes is a little talent. Taking up a hobby or refining a talent can do wonders for your confidence. If you feel brave enough, you can show other people your hard work. It never hurts to hear a little praise on occasion.

有时候所需要的仅是一点点天赋。培养一种爱好或发挥天赋，这对增强信心起着不可思议的作用。如果你能勇敢面对，你可以让其他人看到你的勤奋工作。偶尔听一听赞扬也没什么不好。

2. Keep a journal

写日志

You are your own worst critic, but you don’t have to be. Recording² your accomplishments⁴ or writing about things that make you happy can help you realize your own self worth. Life is worth living and you should remind yourself of that.

你是你自己最刻薄的批评家，但是你不需要这样去做。记录你的成就或写一些能让自己快乐的事情，这可以帮助实现你的自我价值。生活值得活下去，你应该提醒自己这一点。

3. Keep fit

保持健康

Exercising and eating healthy food can make you feel good about the choices you make for yourself. When you notice how good and healthy you look, you won’t have reason to try to hide behind baggy⁵ clothes.

锻炼和吃健康的食物可以让你为自己所做的选择感觉良好。当你意识到你看起来是那么的良好和健康时，你将不会找理由试图把自己藏到宽松的衣服里。

4. Take care of yourself

照顾好自己

Do something that you want to do. If nobody wants to see that cheesy movie with you, go by yourself and don’t get into the mindset that only losers go to the movies alone. Being independent and not having to constantly have companionship is a strength, not a weakness.

做你想做的事。如果没有人愿意陪你看那种俗气的电影，那就自己去吧，但是不要陷入只有失败者才会独自去看电影的心理模式。保持独立而非成群结队是一种优势，而不是劣势。

5. Turn into an optimist⁶

做个乐观主义者

It makes no sense remarking on the dark clouds while ignoring the rainbow. Seeking positive ideas and looking at the “bright side” can affect your mood for the better. Focusing on the good things in life can help you hold your head high, knowing that life is good, even when it seems bad.

忽视彩虹却只把重点放在乌云上，这是完全没有意义的。寻求积极的想法，看到“光明的一面”可以让你的情绪变得更好。关注生活中美好的东西让你能抬头挺胸，即使当生活看起来糟糕，你也会明白它是美好的。

6. Spend some time alone…but not too much

花点时间独处，但不要太多

Everyone should have some time to themselves every day. Reading a book or enjoying the outdoors are great for the soul. But too much alone time can get the brain to sit stagnant⁷. Sometimes people get sick of themselves and end up thinking of things that end up depressing them. Have a healthy dose of “you” time, but make sure you leave the room to seek out the people who matter most.

每个人每天都应该在自己身上花点时间。阅读一本书或享受户外活动，对心灵来说是很好的方式。但是过多的独处会让大脑反应缓慢呆滞。有时人们会讨厌自己，最终陷于令自己沮丧的事情中。对“自己” 的独处时间要有一个合理的安排，保证在你走出房门后去寻找最重要的人。

7. Do good deeds

做好事

There’s nothing like helping⁸ other people to give you that warm, fuzzy feeling inside. You know you’ve done something good and that you made another person happy. Making a difference in someone’s life can make a difference in your own, for the better.

没有什么比帮助别人能带给你内心更温暖、舒适的感觉了。你自己知道，你做过好事，你让别人感到快乐。你让别人的生活变得不同，这也会让你自己的生活变得不同，也许会变得更好。

8. Set achievable goals

设立可完成的目标

Setting impossible goals only sets you up for failure. If, for example, you want to lose weight, small increments⁹ at a time may be a good option. You can easily lose five pounds. Lose those five pounds and you will feel a sense of accomplishment³. Further challenge yourself to another small amount. The more goals you achieve, the more you will see how awesome¹⁰ you really are.

设立一个无法实现的目标只会将你引向失败。比如说你想减肥，每次小幅度的增加可能是一个不错的选择。你可以很容易的减掉5磅。减掉了5磅体重，你会有成就感。进一步挑战自己，再减掉一小部分体重。你实现的目标越多，你会意识到你是多么的了不起。

9. Who cares what other people think?

不用在意别人怎么想

It’s very difficult to turn off the thoughts of what others might be thinking. The only way you can shrug¹¹ it off is if you resolve to just not care. Who cares? If someone thinks poorly of you, that’s their problem. That issue is on them, not you. Move on, stay fabulous¹².

不去理会他人可能怎么想是非常难做到的。唯一能屏蔽这些想法的是你决定不去理会。谁会在意？如果有人贬低了你，那是他们的问题。问题在他们身上，而不是你。保持前进，做到极致。

10. Learn to love yourself

学会爱自己

The person whose opinion matters the most is your own. If you don’t love yourself, try to find out why. Then try to find a solution to that reason. Can it be fixed¹³? If not, can you find someone who can help, perhaps a psychologist, a friend, or a pastor¹⁴? Make room in your heart for yourself. You’re the only “you”, you’ve got.

你自己的想法最重要。如果你不爱自己，试着找出原因。然后试着找到一个针对这个原因的解决方案。你自己可以解决吗？如果不能，你能找到一个帮你忙的人吗？也许是一位心理学家，一个朋友，或者是一位牧师。在你心里给自己腾出一些空间。你是唯一的“你”。