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  • Surely, true love requires more than 3 reasons, you may be thinking. I must be oversimplifying things. Maybe I've never really been in love and I have no idea what I'm talking about, or perhaps I'm just a lunatic. Well, you're certainly entitled to your opinion, but please hear me out before you jump to conclusions. By the time you have finished reading this article, I hope to convince you that, in fact, there are only 3. I know you're dying of curiosity, so let's just get right to the point, shall we?

    The first reason to love someone is because of who they are. Of the three reasons, this one is probably the most obvious. We are naturally drawn1 to those who possess qualities that are important to us. Physical appearance, money, and lifestyle might be important factors for many. Others may place a higher value on thoughtfulness, affection, or intelligence. The list, of course, goes on and on.

    The second reason to love someone is because of who they are not. We've all been in situations where some fairly distinct personality flaws have been prominently exhibited by those around us from time to time. Who hasn't at some point elbowed their significant other to say, “I'm soooo glad you're not like THAT!” Some of the more common traits in this category might be unfaithfulness, freeloading, or lack of personal hygiene2.

    The third reason to love someone is despite who they are. No one is perfect. If it doesn't bother you that your girlfriend clips her toenails in the kitchen while cooking dinner, you might be a redneck or you might be in love—perhaps both. Is it acceptable to be seen with a boyfriend who actually goes out in public wearing jeans and Nikes with argyle socks? Bottom line is, of all the things that are annoying about someone, which ones are acceptable, which ones are deal-breakers, and which ones can be negotiated or changed?

    I believe that true love consists of these three key reasons to love someone. If I can say that I love someone for all three reasons, and I can articulate specific qualities in each of these categories, then I have a good understanding of what is most important to me. Please understand, however, that I'm not suggesting that it is necessary to create a master checklist before the next date. If the list is miles long, one may never find true happiness. After all, no one will completely measure up to a wish list that's too specific. However, it is important to understand those traits, qualities, or values that are not negotiable. We all probably have some non-negotiable items in each of the three categories I described above. Spending time with people who meet these basic criteria3 often makes interesting things happen. Sometimes strengths in some areas make weaknesses in other areas less offensive. Things we never imagined we could tolerate suddenly become acceptable because of the unique combination of strengths that another person brings to the relationship. Also remember that just as important as finding someone who meets my key criteria is making sure that I am lovable, too. We all have positive qualities, but which ones are the ones I want someone to love me for? Are those qualities most evident? Which of my less desirable traits can I improve upon?

    If all this seems too confusing or analytical4, just remember that there are only three reasons to love someone. With that in mind, I need to go buy some new socks.




    爱上某人的第三个原因是不管他们是怎样的人。人无完人。如果你不介意你的女朋友一边在厨房里做饭,一边剪指甲,你不是乡下人就是爱上了她,亦或两者都是。你是否介意和穿着牛仔裤耐克鞋配菱形花纹袜子的男友一起出现在公共场合? 底线就是,这个人身上所有令人厌恶的东西中,哪些是可以接受的?哪些是不能接受的,哪些是可以忽略的或者可以改变的?



     7级    双语 
     单词标签: drawn  hygiene  criteria  analytical 


    1 drawn [drɔ:n] MuXzIi   第11级
    • All the characters in the story are drawn from life. 故事中的所有人物都取材于生活。
    • Her gaze was drawn irresistibly to the scene outside. 她的目光禁不住被外面的风景所吸引。
    2 hygiene [ˈhaɪdʒi:n] Kchzr   第8级
    n.健康法,卫生学 (a.hygienic)
    • Their course of study includes elementary hygiene and medical theory. 他们的课程包括基础卫生学和医疗知识。
    • He's going to give us a lecture on public hygiene. 他要给我们作关于公共卫生方面的报告。
    3 criteria [kraɪ'tɪərɪə] vafyC   第12级
    • The main criterion is value for money. 主要的标准是钱要用得划算。
    • There are strict criteria for inclusion in the competition. 参赛的标准很严格。
    4 analytical [ˌænəˈlɪtɪkl] lLMyS   第7级
    • I have an analytical approach to every survey. 对每项调查我都采用分析方法。
    • As a result, analytical data obtained by analysts were often in disagreement. 结果各个分析家所得的分析数据常常不一致。

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