你会遇到一些人他们总是试图超过你,在中学,大学,在工作中。他们想要拥有更好的车,更大的房子,更好的衣物,更酷的小玩意。对他们来说,生命就是一场竞赛---他们不得不比同辈做得更好来让自己感到快乐。
这里有一个秘诀:生命并不是一场竞赛。而是一段旅程。如果你在途中一直都试图给他人留下深刻印象,超过别人,那你就浪费了这段旅程。与之相反,学会享受它,让之成为快乐之旅,永恒的学习之旅,持久的进步之旅以及爱之旅。
不要为拥有一辆更好的车或一所更好的房子或者任何物质的东西,即便是一份薪水更高的工作操心。这些根本无足轻重,也不会使你快乐。你可能在拥有了这些之后只是想要更多的。与之相反,学会满足你已经拥有的---然后学会利用你原本想要浪费在为挣钱买这些东西的时间去做你真正热爱的事。
找到你的激情,坚持不懈地追求它。别让自己被一个还债的的工作所累。生命太短暂了,更不可将之浪费在你所厌恶的工作上。
Life Isn't a Competition
You will meet many people who will try to outdo you, in school, in college, at work. They'll try to have nicer cars, bigger houses, nicer clothes, cooler gadgets. To them, life is a competition — they have to do better than their peers to be happy.
Here's a secret: Life isn't a competition. It's a journey. If you spend that journey always trying to impress others, to outdo others, you’re wasting your journey. Instead, learn to enjoy the journey. Make it a journey of Happiness, of constant learning, of continual improvement, of love.
Don't worry about having a nicer car or house or anything material, or even a better-paying job. None of that matters a whit, and none of it will make you happier. You'll acquire these things and then only want more. Instead, learn to be satisfied with having enough — and then use the time you would have wasted trying to earn money to buy those things … use that time doing things you love.
Find your passion, and pursue it doggedly. Don't settle for a job that pays the bills. Life is too short to waste on a job you hate.
爱应该成为你的生活准则
如果让一个词成为你的生活支撑的话,那它应该是爱。也许这听来已是老生常谈,我也清楚… 但是请信任我,再没有更好的生活准则了。
一些人以成功作为生活准则。他们的生活会很紧张,不开心并且很浅薄。
另一些人的生活准则是个人利益---他们将个人需要置于他人需要之上。他们孤独一生,终究也不会快乐。
还有一些人他们为正义而生---努力展示其道路的正确性,并试图劝服任何一个不以正义为生活准则的人。他们关心他人,却以一种消极的方式,最终怀抱追寻一生的正义而终,而正却是一个糟糕的伴侣。
用爱支撑你的生命。爱你的妻子,你的孩子,你的父母亲,你的朋友,全心全意地去爱。给与他们你所需要的,不要流露出任何残忍,不赞同,冷漠或者失望,只有爱。向他们敞开灵魂。
不仅仅爱你深爱的人,也要爱你的邻居...你的同事…甚至陌生人…他们是你广义上的兄弟姐妹。给你遇到的任何一个人一个微笑,一句善语。一个友好的姿势,一只援助之手。
不仅仅爱邻居和陌生人…也要爱你的敌人。对你最残酷的人,对曾经对你不善的人…爱他。他是一个备受折磨的灵魂,最需要你的爱。
最重要的是爱你自己。当别人批评你时,学着不要强加自己,去认为自己丑,笨或者不值得去爱…而要想着自己是一个很完美的人,值得拥有幸福和真爱…并学会爱现在的自己。
最后,要知道我爱你并且永远都会,你即将开启一段有点奇怪,令人害怕,令人心悸但最终很不可思议的巧妙旅程,我永远会支持你。祝万事如意。
Love Should Be Your Rule
If there's a single word you should live your life by, it should be this: Love. It might sound corny, I know … but trust me, there's no better rule in life.
Some would live by the rule of success. Their lives will be stressful, unhappy and shallow.
Others would live by the rule of selfishness — putting their needs above those of others. They will live lonely lives, and will also be unhappy.
Still others will live by the rule of righteousness — trying to show the right path, and admonishing anyone who doesn't live by that path. They are concerned with others, but in a negative way, and in the end will only have their own righteousness to live with, and that's a horrible companion.
Live your life by the rule of love. Love your spouse, your children, your parents, your friends, with all of your heart. Give to them what they need, and show them not cruelty nor disapproval nor coldness nor disappointment, but only love. Open your soul to them.
Love not only your loved ones, but your neighbors … your coworkers … strangers … your brothers and sisters in humanity. Offer anyone you meet a smile, a kind word, a kind gesture, a helping hand.
Love not only neighbors and strangers … but your enemy. The person who is cruelest to you, who has been unkind to you … love him. He is a tortured soul, and most in need of your love.
And most of all, love yourself. While others may criticize you, learn not to be so hard on yourself, to think that you’re ugly or dumb or unworthy of love … but to think instead that you are a wonderful human being, worthy of Happiness and love … and learn to love yourself for who you are.
Finally, know that I love you and always will. You are starting out on a weird, scary, daunting, but ultimately incredibly wonderful journey, and I will be there for you when I can. Godspeed.