Many men are never taught how to talk to women. Because of this many guys go through life without the ability to attract a woman. Here are 15 tips to help make sure you aren’t making mistakes with the women you’d like to attract:

很多男性都不知道如何与女性交谈。正因如此，这些男性终其一生都缺乏女人缘。下面的15个技巧会让你面对心仪的女性时从容自在：

1. You should talk about “emotional” topics like childhood memories, future ambitions, or her passions. These conversation topics will open up her emotional floodgates.

1、你可以试着打感情牌。多谈谈童年的温馨回忆，对未来的雄心抱负或是让她兴奋的事物。这些话题会让她向你敞开她的情感大门。

2. Women want a guy who is not afraid to lead her. While talking to a woman take control of the conversation. Never wait for her to dictate¹ what you’ll be talking about.

2、女人想要可以强力掌控她的男人。抓住谈话时的主动权，决不让她来决定你要说什么。

3. Pay attention to the non verbal cues a woman is giving you. If you’re standing² too close to her, accidentally spitting when you talk, or making her feel uncomfortable in any way… she will send you hints. Pay attention to them.

3、注意她给你的任何隐藏暗示。如果你做些让她反感的行为，比如故意站的很靠近她，说话时吐着痰等等，她会向你暗示的，留意这些暗示。

4. Remember this motto “Fun not Funny.” Women are attracted to men who allow them to have fun. Don’t concentrate on having the funniest jokes. Concentrate on showing them the most excitement and enjoyment.

4、牢记“有趣而不滑稽”。女人喜欢那些幽默可以逗她们开心的男人。不要浪费时间在那些所谓滑稽的段子上。花点心思想想如何让她们兴奋和愉悦吧。

5. Tease women. One of the easiest ways to take a conversation to a fun and flirty³ level is to begin to tease women. Think back to your time on the playground. In the world of dating… what worked on the playground is effective all over again.

5、挑逗她。想让谈话变得轻浮有趣？最简单的方法就是去调戏她。想想小时候在操场上是如何和小女生玩的。在约会的世界里，这招同样事半功倍。

6. Get intimate with her. Women are turned on by men who are not afraid to take a conversation to a personal, intimate level.

6、聊点私密的。在女人眼里，那些敢去去谈论她个人私密的男人总是散发着无妨阻挡的性吸引力。

7. Use things like “cold reads” to turn women on. Women love to hear opinions about themselves. Tell her what you observe about her.

7、用你的冷读术让她兴奋。女人总是喜欢听别人对自己的看法。告诉她你独一无二的观察。

8. Avoid complimenting a woman too much. Women are turned off by men who come across as “needy⁴.” If you are complimenting a woman too much she will think you’re trying to impress her. Which will have the opposite effect.

8、不要赞美她太多。那些看起来“饥不择食”的男人总是让女人大倒胃口。你赞美她太多只会让她轻视你。切忌。

9. If you want to know how to talk to women in a way that doesn’t bore them… Avoid asking too many “interview” style questions. Instead state your opinion about things.

9、如果你正在纠结如何避免引她厌烦...忘了那些会谈式的对话吧，多谈谈你的见解。

10. Remember: Statements over questions. Instead of saying “where did you grow up?” Say “You don’t look like you grew up around here.” This allows you to make observations about her and express your personality.

10、牢记：有见解的设问。如果你想问她在哪长大的，你可以这样问：“你看起来不像这带长大的？”有洞察力的你一定让她印象深刻。

11. Don’t hide your identity. Don’t be afraid to talk about whatever you’re passionate⁵ about.

11、不要藏着掖着。谈论任何事情都别在意，君子坦荡荡。

12. Never compliment her on her eyes, looks, or body.

12、永远不要称赞她的眼睛，容貌和身材。

13. Say something that lets her know that you view her in a “sexual” way. If you don’t, you run the risk of winding⁶ up in the “friend zone”.

13、说点什么让她知道你对她的性冲动。如果你表现的太君子，也许你会被她列入闺蜜组。

14. Use conversation “games” to keep the mood fun and flirtatious⁷. Games can be anything like “truth or dare” or to less extreme games like the “5 questions game”.

14、做点小游戏让气氛变得暧昧有趣。可以是任何游戏比如“真心话大冒险”又或者平淡些的“点名问答游戏”。

15. Don’t give away your hand so fast. Women like men who are a challenge. If you want to keep a woman’s interest she has to feel like she is slowly winning you over. If she thinks you’re too easy… she’ll lose interest.

15、保持点神秘感。女人都喜欢迷一样的男子。如果你想让她们对你一直有兴趣，那么就让她多琢磨一会吧。否则，她对你很快就没兴趣了。

The best way to think about how to talk to women is to think about what kind of fun, playful, and sexual conversation you would most enjoy. Talking to a woman doesn’t have to be difficult. You just need to be aware of what they are turned on by and what turns them off. Follow the list above and you’ll do just fine.

与女性交谈的最佳话题就是你享受并感兴趣的话题。交往并不像你想得这么难，你只要了解是什么让她们心花怒放而又是什么让她们索然无兴就可以了。放心照上面的方法去做吧！