约会十大必胜秘籍

在《傲慢与偏见》中，在最初的舞会上达西对伊丽莎白的态度傲慢，伊丽莎白也因受达西的怠慢，便对他产生了偏见。兜兜转转，最终才有情人终成眷属。古话说的好：“第一印象机会难得，失不再来”。赶紧看看男士第一次和女士“必胜约会”的10个小贴士。

1. Pay

1. 付钱问题

Pay for everything. Don't mention splitting¹ the bill. If the lady suggests paying part of the bill, do not accept the offer. If she insists, allow her to pay what she wishes (this is not just a rule for dating).

抢着买下所有的单。绝对不要提AA这档子事。如果女方主动提议给一部分钱，你可以完全忽略她的建议。如果她坚持要这样做的话，那就让她随便给点吧。

2. Location

2. 地点问题

No movies on the first date. How can you get to know each other if you spend the majority of the time in silence? I would recommend taking your date out for dinner (no lunch dates on the first date either). Take her somewhere you feel comfortable and somewhere you can easily afford. You don't want to be nervous all through the date that you might get stuck with a crippling² bill. If price is a big concern for you, you can organize your own date in a public place (like a park or even at your own home) and prepare the meal yourself. If you can't cook, takeaways are fine, but serve it on plates at the table and try to make an effort.

第一次约会绝对不要去看电影。如果约会的绝大部分时间你们都沉默着，你们怎么增进之间的了解呢？我会建议你带着她出去吃顿饭（也不要一起去吃午饭）。带她去一个你感觉很舒服同时也不太贵的地方那是最好了。这样你就不会因为一直担心那恐怖的账单而一直惴惴不安了。如果价钱问题很严重的话，你可以将你们的约会安排到一个公共的地方（像一个公园，或者你家也行）同时自备食物。如果你自己不会弄饭的话，外卖也是可以的，但一定要尽力用盘子盛食物并且放在桌子上。

I would also suggest that you not go too overboard with the first date. Keep it simple and moderately priced. You can get extravagant³ on subsequent⁴ dates if things go well.

我还要建议你不用对第一次约会太全身心的投入了。保持简单和适度的价格。如果一切进展顺利的话，你会在接下来的约会中变得过度浪费。

3. Manners

3. 方式问题

First off, if you are going to dinner, read the Rules for Fine Dining list; try to remember at least one or two. When you pick up your date, get out of the car and hold the door open for her. Do the same when you are letting her out of the car. If you are dining out for your first date, hold the chair out for your date and help her sit.

当你去接她时，停下车后立刻下车为她把门打开。在他下车的时候也需要这样做。如果你在第一次约会的时候外出吃饭，一定要帮他拉椅子帮她入座。

Don't be late.

还有一点，绝对不要迟到了哦~

4. Respect

4. 尊重她

That means not to expect anything in return! A date is not payment for future pleasures, it is a way to get to know someone to gauge⁵ compatibility⁶. This rule also means you should not try to get your date drunk, drugged, or compromised in any other way. At the end of the date you can offer a small kiss – offer nothing else and expecting nothing back.

这意味着不要期盼有任何的回报！一次约会绝对不是对未来欢乐时光的投资，而是一种更全面跟透彻了解一个人的方法。这也意味着你绝对不能把你的约会对象灌醉，和她一起嗑药或着以任何方式伤害她。在约会的最后你可以尝试一个浅浅的吻——不用提供什么其他的东西同时也不要期盼有什么回报。

5. Confidence

5. 自信

Be confident and take charge of the evening. This does not mean you should drag your date around by the arm; be firm with your suggestions and be confident that you will have a good date and make a good impression – remember, if you were a total loser you wouldn't be on the date in the first place.

自信一点并掌管一切的事情。这不是叫你拉着她的手臂到处走，而是要显得对自己的建议有信心，坚信你们能享受一个非常愉快的约会而且你会给她留下一个非常好的印象。记住，如果你是一个彻底的失败者的话，你根本就没有机会和她同一个桌子。

6. Grooming⁷

6. 装扮问题

Dress appropriately for your date, and you should probably let your date know where you are planning to take her in advance so she can also dress appropriately. If you are going to the beach for a seaside dinner, dress nicely (no jeans) but don't overdress. Similarly, if you are going to a fancy restaurant, wear a shirt and tie. Make sure your shoes are clean and polished if necessary.

为你的约会合理打扮一下，你也应该提前让她知道你们的约会是去哪，这样她才知道应该怎么穿衣服。如果你们要去海滩享受海边晚餐，穿漂亮点穿少点（别穿牛仔裤）。相同的，如果你们要去一家高档次的酒店，一定要穿T恤打领带。记住整干净你的鞋，必要的时候擦一擦。

Shower. Shampoo. Shave. If you have cologne, wear a little but not too much.

洗澡，用好点的洗发水。如果你用古龙水的话，也可以适量的喷一点。

7. Conversation

7. 谈话主题

Do not focus on yourself during the evening – ask your date questions about herself (this works in all social situations). Listen to the replies too and don't just look for an opening to start discussing yourself. Do not talk about your job for more than a few minutes – while our own work is a fascinating subject for us, it is seldom fascinating for someone else. Be sure to compliment⁸ your date – but don't go overboard – you will seem desperate.

不要在整个晚上都专注于自己的问题——要问关于她的问题（这在所有的社交场景都有效）。同时要认真听取他的会话不要只是为讨论自己开个头。不要谈论你自己的工作太长时间——可能你的工作队我们来说非常吸引人，但是很难能吸引到其他人。庆祝恭维一下你们的约会——但也不要显得太过头了——那你就显得太过饥渴。

Do not ever talk about dates you have had with other people or your ex-girlfriends.

绝对不要提起你和其他人，或者是你前女朋友的约会。

8. Timing⁹

8. 时间问题

Don't let your date last too long. Think of it like a good meal – you should finish your plate feeling like you want just a little more. This is the best time to finish a date. This also means that you should not plan for the date to be too far from home otherwise the travel can ruin things.

不要让你的约会持续太长时间。把约会想想成一顿晚饭——一顿好的饭是你吃完自己的之后感觉还差那么一点的。而这也正是结束一次约会的最佳时刻。这也意味着你不能把你的约会安排在离家太远的地方，否则的话旅途漫长会毁掉所有的事情。

9. Gifts

9. 礼物问题

It can be a very nice idea to give your date a small gift on the first date. Don't go crazy on something expensive – just a nice little token¹⁰ like a single rose is fine. Keep in mind where you are going and how you plan to get there so your date does not end up being lumbered¹¹ with something that she has to carry around all night. Oh – and don't pick the rose from your dates garden – buy one.

给她带去一个小礼物当然是个好主意。但是千万别疯着去买啥昂贵的礼品——一个小巧的指环一直玫瑰都还不错。要综合考虑你们是要去哪，怎样去，别让她在整个旅途中都需要带着一个东西。还有还有，千万别是在约会地旁边的花园摘一株玫瑰，去花店买吧。

10. Conclusion

10. 结论

If you enjoyed your time with your date and would like to see her again, call her and tell her so. Don't wait too long (and definitely don't play hard to get). Be completely honest. Having said that, if you had an awful time, you should still be honest (though not brutal). There is no point in leading someone on – it will end up badly for both of you.

如果你和她在一起的时候很享受还想在见她一次，打电话告诉她吧。别等太长时间了（趁热打铁）。一定要老实的告诉她你有多么想她。如果不是的话，也要诚实的告诉她，必竟没必要骗别人——这对两个人都不好。