三十岁时，友谊的模样

What Friendship Should Look Like in Your Thirties

人到三十，生活的重心就发生了改变。以前觉得很重要的事，现在想想就觉得那时候的自己好傻。在我30岁生日那天，我才意识到我的生活已经改变了。以前我有很多朋友，但是不能说哪个朋友很好。20岁的时候我也没有认真思考过和我在一起的朋友。但是现在我三十岁了，我精心挑选着那些能被我称之为朋友的人。现在，我只有几个朋友但是他们都是我希望能成为挚友的人。

When you get to your thirties, your priorities¹ change. Things that may have seemed important before will look silly now. When I celebrated² my 30th birthday, I realized that my life was about to change. I used to have tons of friends but I couldn’t say every single one of them was a “quality” friend. During my twenties, I didn’t think about the type of people I spent time with. But now that I’m in my mid-thirties, I’m very selective about the kind of people I want to call my friends. Now, I have fewer friends but they are the best I can ever pray for.

你们有一定的相似之处

1. You’re alike³

不管是政治观念、文学喜好、还是电影喜好方面，你们肯定有一些相似之处，有一些共通的地方。

There has to be some similarities whether it be love of politics, literature, movies. There just has to be a common ground.

彼此尊重

2. You show each other mutual⁴ respect

每个聪明的人都知道尊重是自己挣来的，真正的朋友间会彼此尊重。他们知道什么时候需要安静、给你私人空间，也知道什么时候把你拉回现实。我的朋友会给我建议，即使不赞同但也会尊重我的决定。

Every smart person knows that respect is earned and real friends respect each other. They know when they need to be quiet and give you privacy⁵ and space or when they should shake you back to your senses. My friends give me advice but they respect my decision even if they don’t agree with it.

在一起很快乐

3. You have fun together

和真正的朋友在一起即使是在做很傻很疯的事也觉得很有趣。

True friends have fun with each other even when they are doing the stupidest or craziest things.

能够互相依靠

4.You can depend on each other

某个朋友有难的时候我不介意半夜爬起来帮忙。因为我相信真正的朋友之间是可以互相依靠的。

I am the type of friend who doesn’t mind getting woken up in the middle of the night when a friend is in trouble. Because I believe that true friends can depend on each other.

他们会接受你

5.They accept you

这是挚友的一个最重要的特点---他们彼此接受。不会因朋友犯下的错、朋友的过去而评判他。

This is one of the most important quality of real friends—they accept each other for what they are or are not. They don’t judge each other for the mistakes their friends make, or their past.

很善解人意

6.They’re thoughtful⁶ with you

真正的朋友会为你考虑，会担心你，也会和你倾诉他们的忧愁。

True friends think about you, worry about you, and tell you when they’re worried.