From the emergence¹ of " Marry-Upon-Graduation" , and the 1970 s to be the maid of honor of 1980s, urban women’s marriage seems overnight² into the early bus. So, faced with more and more women accept the concept³ of "early marriage", how to choose? Different women have different choices, some women choose to get married as soon as she graduated, some choose to have stable work first and then look for objects. I think that marriage is the root of happiness, and career is a sign of confidence. Young people still need to have their own work first, then to consider the matter of marriage.

从“毕婚族”的出现，到70后给80后当伴娘，都市女性的婚姻似乎一夜之间步入了早班车。那么，面对越来越多女性“先婚姻、后事业”的“早婚观”，人们究竟该怎样看待呢？不同的女性有不同的选择，有人选择毕业就结婚，有人选择先稳定工作再找对象。我认为，婚姻是幸福的根源，而事业是自信的表现。年轻人还是要先有自己的工作，再考虑婚姻的问题。

Nowadays, aged man is really preferred to choose those free-standing self-improvement women. Women who has no money and no career are at risk of reduced to a lover. First of all, we have to make sure we know what lifestyle we want, is a housewife or an independent woman? Then we will be easy to know which life we want.

这个年代，男人真正比较喜欢是那些自立自强的女人。没钱没事业的女人大部分都有沦为小三的危险。首先，我们要清楚自己属于什么类型的人，是相夫教子的家庭主妇？还是自尊心很强的能独立生活的，这样就明确自己想要的生活了。

A woman should learn as much in the pattern of the early age, lay the foundation⁴ for future career. Don't wait for old age, have the burden of the family, the study and the test, it will be very tired. But hard work, does not affect you going to pursue⁵ love and marriage of sweet happiness. If you have a good job and stable position, your situation will be different in your husband’s home.

女人应该在花样的年龄多学点东西，为以后的事业打基础。不要等到年纪大了，有了家庭的负担后，才来考试学习，那样就会很累。但努力的工作之余，并不影响你去追求爱情和婚姻的甜美快乐。如果你有个好的工作和稳定的事业，在婆家的地位，和在你老公心里的地位是不一样的。

Actually, this question is as important as asking what to eat or sleep, both are inseparable. Modern women, is a good balance when she deals with the relationship between family and career, both development. In real life, and there is no lack of such a woman. However, women at a young age, first of all, should have their own work. Only independent women can live happily.

其实这个问题就像是问吃饭重要还是睡觉重要一样，两者是离不开的。现代优秀的女性，是两者间优秀的平衡者，只有处理好家庭和事业的关系，两者并发展才是优秀的女性，在现实生活中并不乏这样的女人。但是，女人在年轻的时候首先应该要有自己的工作，女人独立才活的幸福.。