Social Skills That Will Make You Successful In Every Aspect Of Life

会让你在生活的方方面面成功的社交技巧

1. Speak Less, Ask More

少说,多问

Those who are great with people don’t necessary have the gift-of-gab, but rather, are great at asking questions. One of the most important social skills you can develop is the ability to ask questions; not in an interrogating¹ way, but in the way that will help you understand people better and strengthen your relationship with them. People love talking about themselves, so asking questions that trigger memories; cause them to give their opinion; or ask for advice, will put you in the driver’s seat by allowing them to be the center of the conversation.

那些伟大的人没有必要有口才,而是善于问问题。最重要的一个社交技巧之一是你可以培养问问题的能力;不是以询问的方式,而是,以将帮助您更好地理解他人,加强你与他们的关系的方式。人们喜欢谈论他们自己,所以提问引发回忆,让他们给你意见,或寻求建议,会让你在驱动者的位置,通过让他们成为谈话的中心。

2. Celebrate Their Wins

庆祝他们的胜利

When someone shares great news with you, instead of dismissing it, sharing good news of your own, or even bashing their good news — celebrate their win by being genuinely excited for them.

当有人和你分享好消息,不是否定它,而是分享自己的好消息,甚至抨击他们的好消息——庆祝他们的胜利,为他们真诚地开心。

3. Lock-in On Group Settings

在组织设置中锁定

For many, the group setting is the perfect opportunity to pull back, check their phone, and zone out of the conversation–but not you. Pay close attention in a group setting, you’ll be able to learn how to connect with others by what they say, how they say it, and even what people choose not to say. Be aware of who likes to lead the conversation, what people like to talk about, and if someone is being excluded from the conversation.

对许多人来说,该组织设置是一个后退的完美的机会,检查他们的手机,和让交谈变得浑然无知,但不是对于你。密切关注组织设置,你就可以学习如何与他人通过他们说什么,他们怎么说,甚至人们选择不说什么。知道谁喜欢发起谈话,人们喜欢谈论什么,如果有人被排除在谈话中。

4. Make Eye Contact — Or Not

眼神交流与否

On a daily basis you are bombarded with distractions³ competing for one of your most precious resources–your attention. Making eye contact with the person you are speaking with face-to-face is an outward expression that you are confident and fully engaged with that person. However, if someone isn’t looking making eye contact with you, before you jump to conclusions, be aware that it may be culturally unacceptable for them to do so; they are intimidated⁴ by you; or it makes them uncomfortable.

每天你狂轰滥炸分心争夺你最宝贵的资源之一，你的注意。与人眼神交流与面对面说话是一种外在表现,你的自信和充分参与到那个人的谈话中。然而,如果有人不希望与你眼神接触,过早下结论之前,要知道,我们的文化可以接受他们这样做;他们受到你的威胁,或者让他们感到不舒服。

5. Show Positive Body Language

显示积极的肢体语言

You can project confidence, kindness, and leadership just by the way you carry yourself. Keep your head up, shoulders back, and chest out. We learn from Dr. Amy Cuddy’s TED² Talk, “Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are“, that how you carry yourself can impact how you think and feel about yourself–so get big!

你可以增强你的自信,善良,和领导力仅仅通过你自己的方式。保持抬头,挺胸,收腹。我们从艾米.卡迪博士的TED演讲中学到,“你的身体语言的形成你是谁”,你把自己表现得如何影响你如何认为自己是个什么样的人,所以让自己变得伟大!

6. Pay Attention To The Little Things

关注小事情

Life is hard. And many people are going through life in quiet desperation with little or no support from family or friends. The problem is, people are so good at hiding it, that they give off the impression that everything is good in their life and they don’t need help. Keep in mind that people have lives outside of work, school, and other places you seed them. A simple awareness⁵ of others’ body language, behavior, and facial expressions will give you insight into how things are really going for them.

生活是困难的。许多人在安静的绝望中与很少或没有家人和朋友的支持中经历生活。问题是,人们善于隐藏 ,他们给人的印象是,他们的生活一切好,他们不需要帮助。记住,人们工作，学习以外的生活,你可以在其他地方发现踪迹。对别人的肢体语言,行为,和面部表情的一个简单的认识会给你了解事情的真相。