Signs of you are not living a happy life

你生活得不开心的标志

Ask yourself, ‘am I happy’?

问问你自己，“我快乐吗”

1. You dwell on your past

你活在过去

If you compare yourself to a previous time in your life and you believe that your past was better than your present and your exes or friends are happier than you are now, it’s a sure sign you are unconsciously compare yourself to others. First, your past was not as better as you may think now, and there definitely were hard times and problems. Second, your ex or friend may not be as successful and happy as you think. Don’t believe in illusion and stop dwelling¹ on your past. Focus on your present and enjoy new happy and bad moments in your life instead of past ones.

如果你比较自己以前在你的生活中的时间,你认为过去比你现在和你的前女友和朋友比你现在更快乐,这是一个你无意识地把自己和别人比较确定的信号。首先,你过去是不像你可能认为更好的现在,也绝对是困难和问题。第二,你的前任或朋友可能不像你想象的那么成功和快乐。不相信幻觉和停止活在在你的过去。专注于你现在和享受在你的生活中新的快乐和糟糕的时刻,而不是过去的。

2. You often judge others

你总是评判他人

The major problem of a modern society is that people become more selfish. We often judge others, we don’t respect people around us and think that we are better than they are. If you have a habit of judging other people, you should break it. It’s an obvious yet overlooked sign of comparison. You simply defend yourself and you are trying to boost your self-confidence by judging others. It’s a huge mistake!

现代社会的主要问题是,人们变得越来越自私。我们常常评判别人,我们不尊重周围的人,认为我们比他们更好。如果你有一个判断他人的习惯,你应该停止。这是一个明显的比较忽视的迹象。你只是保护你自己和你想提升你的自信通过评判别人。这是一个巨大的错误!

3. You project your anger onto others

你把你的愤怒发到别人身上

People who are constantly comparing themselves to others are unhappy. Unhappy people tend to project their feelings of anger onto people they respect and love. No, they don’t hurt them or make them unhappy. They just do it unconsciously. Start breaking your habit of comparing yourself to others with letting go of your anger.

不断地比较自己和别人的人不幸福。不幸福的人倾向于把他们愤怒发到他们尊敬和爱戴的人身上。不,他们不伤害他们或让他们不开心。他们只是无意识地做这件事。开始打破你把自己和别人比较的习惯,让你的愤怒离去。

4. You are constantly thinking about money

你总是想着钱

Are you satisfied with your financial situation? Do you want to make more money because your friend has a higher paycheck than you? You don’t notice those things you already have and you are not satisfied with your overall life. You think that your neighbors, friends, siblings² and coworkers have a better life because they can afford to buy a new car, a new phone or expensive clothing. But, are you sure that they really can afford all those things? After all, they might have lots of debts and financial problems. Moreover, money will never make you happy, remember it.

你满意你的财务状况吗?你想赚更多的钱,因为你的朋友比你更高的薪水吗?你没有注意到对于这些事情你已经对你整体生活不满意。你认为你的邻居、朋友、兄弟姐妹和同事有一个更好的生活,因为他们能买得起一辆新车,一个新的电话或昂贵的衣服。但是,你确定他们真的买得起这些东西吗?毕竟,他们可能有大量的债务和财政问题。此外,金钱永远不会让你快乐,记住它。

5. You don’t love yourself

你不爱你自己

If you don’t love yourself, it’s one of the warning signs you’re unconsciously comparing yourself to others. Probably you often say something like ‘Your hair is more beautiful than mine’ or ‘You’re so slim and I’m so plump since I can’t drop those extra pounds.’ You should never ever say such things. Learn how to love your body, accept yourself and love yourself. You are special and you are absolutely beautiful no matter your age, weight and height. I don’t need to see you to write these words. I believe everyone is beautiful but in their own way. We all have flaws so no one is perfect.

如果你不爱自己,这是一个你无意识地把自己和别人比较的警告信号。可能你经常说“你的头发比我的更漂亮”或“你太苗条,我很胖,因为我没有减掉额外的几磅。你永远不应该说这样的话。学习如何爱你的身体,接受自己,爱自己。你是特别的,你是绝对美丽的无论你的年龄,体重和身高。我不需要看到你写这些话。我相信每个人都是美丽的在他们自己的方式。我们都有缺点,没有人是完美的。

Many of us are trying to stop comparing ourselves to others, but at the same time many of us don’t even know that we have such a bad habit. Comparing breeds insecurity and makes us miserable³. Remember, no one is perfect. Stay grateful, love yourself and enjoy your present life.

我们中的许多人正试图阻止拿自己和别人比较,但同时我们中的很多人甚至不知道我们有这样一个坏习惯。比较产生不安全感,让我们苦不堪言。记住,没有人是完美的。保持感激,爱自己,享受你现在的生活。