Low carb is not the right diet for everyone. Bungee-jumping is not the sport for everyone. Condo living is not a comfortable living arrangement for everyone. And there is no set blueprint¹ for your life either.

低糖并不是每个人的正确饮食。蹦极也不是每个人的运动。公寓生活也不是适应每个人的舒适居住方式。生也没有固定的蓝图，全凭自己。

You have needs, wants, dreams, and a history that make your life different than anyone else’s. Life is about diversity.

你有需求、希望、梦想，和让你生活与众不同的生活经历。生活就是多样化。

Formal Victorian style is not at all the right approach to a home for me with large dogs and foster² kittens; but my streamlined casual style works well. My friend on the other hand would never be happy in a home with all tile³ floors, it’s just not sophisticated⁴ enough for her. “I need carpet and fancy drapes, and live plants”, she laughs.

刻板的维多利亚时代风格以及大狗和福斯特小猫绝不是我中意的居家生活方式：我喜欢简约型休闲风格的生活。另一方面，我的朋友绝不会喜欢家里只铺着瓷砖地板，她认为那还不够高档。“我需要地毯和花式窗帘，还有鲜活的植物”，她笑着说。

And I would look silly in super-low-cut jeans; but then my 20 year old niece would not welcome the tailored suits I often wear, either.

我穿超低牛仔裤一定会看起来很傻：但我20岁的侄女也不会喜欢我经常穿的女式西服。

My message is simple -- Happiness lies in that sacred place where you create the diversity that makes your life yours. Happiness lies where self acceptance and self improvement meet. Not just your decorating style, or your choice of jeans --but your ideals, your passions, what makes you smile.

我的信息很简单，幸福的可贵之处在于你的生活丰富多彩，与众不同。幸福在于自我认可和自我完善的融合。不只是你的装修风格，或你选择的牛仔裤-而是你的理想、你的激情、能让你微笑的一切。

In order for happiness to live with you, your life must reflect what makes sense to you. What you love, what you care about, what you treasure, what you find interesting and important.

为了让幸福与你同驻，你的生活必须能证明对你有意义。你的喜爱、你的关心、你的珍爱，你感到有趣和重要的一切。

When I first moved to Arizona over 15 years ago now, I had been working with my husband running jobsites for a large construction company. I wanted to do something else when we made the move, but he asked me to stay, and I agreed. It was, after all, what we had been doing all along. Who was I to rock the boat?

当我15年前第一次搬到亚利桑那州时，我一直和我丈夫一起为一家大型建筑公司管理施工现场。我们搬家时，我就想改行干别的事情，但他要求我留下来，而我就同意了。毕竟，我们一直在做这一行。为什么我要自找麻烦呢?

I stayed for 2 years, and I did a decent⁵ job; but I also was very stressed, and added to his stress, because I was unhappy with my choice. I went to work barely⁶ on time, I took every second of my lunch hour, left as early as I could get away with. My heart wasn’t in it.

我做了2年，而且做的是一份体面的工作;但我也感到很紧张，并让他压力重重，因为我的选择不能让自己快乐。我上班几乎从不按时，午餐时间不到最后一刻我绝不起身，下班尽可能早走。我的心全然不在工作上。

After the 2 years, I was able to go back to school and start my Coaching Business. Originally, I put in 50 hours a week, never got tired, bored, wanted to quit. Years later, I still don’t get tired. Ok, that’s not true, but I don’t get sick-and-tired, if you know what I mean.

2年之后，我又能够回到学校重新开始自己的培训业务。最初，我每周工作50小时，从不疲倦、厌烦和想退却。几年后，我仍然毫不厌倦。当然，那也不全对，但我从不感到厌烦和疲倦，或许你知道我的意思。

I wouldn’t make it as a rock star. I could never be a chef, or a surgeon. But Life Coaching I love. I found happiness in the variety of life that fits me. You can too!

我不会成为摇滚明星。我也决不可能成为厨师，或外科医生。但我特喜欢生活培训。我在各种各样的生活中找到我心仪的幸福感。你也可以!

But even with the beauty of diversity, there are of course some basics. Just like in decorating, or fashion style, living a great life involves knowing some basic skills and putting in some foundation pieces. A great paint job won’t help a wall that cracked and peeling!

但多样化让生活美好的同时，一些基本要素自然必不可少。就像装修或时尚风格，过一种美好生活需要了解一些基本的技能，并做一些基础工作。再好的油漆活也无法修复一面破裂斑驳的墙!

Start with the basics, and then from there, it becomes a creative effort that reflects your own personality, your own interests, your own message to the world.

从最基本的开始，然后就从那里，你的努力才有创造性，才能反映你自己的个性，自己的兴趣，自己向世界传达的信息。

1. Screen out things that aren’t important to you.

1.筛选出对你无关紧要的东西。

2. Put your effort in the right places.

2.把自己的精力用对地方。

3. Clearly define⁷ your priorities⁸.

3.明确设定自己的优先顺序。

4. Build reserves into your life.

4.为自己的生活建立储备。

5. Identify and eliminate energy zappers.

5.识别和清除耗费心力的事项。

6. Manage your self-talk.

6.管理好自我对话。

7. Eliminate overwhelm⁹ through daily action.

7.通过日常行为来消除压力。

Every day that you work hard on being optimistic and strengthening things that are meaningful and important to you, there is less room for unhappiness or self pity. Happiness is being YOU, the very best “you” that you can be.

如果你每天都以乐观态度努力工作并强化对你来说有意义和重要的东西，你就没有多少时间感受不快乐或自我怜悯。幸福就是做好自己，做尽可能最好的“自己”。