What makes some people more successful in work and life than others? IQ and work ethic¹ are important, but they don't tell the whole story. Our emotional intelligence -- the way we manage emotions, both our own and those of others -- can play a critical role in determining our happiness and success.

是什么让某些人在工作和生活中比他人更成功呢?智商和职业道德固然重要，但却只是冰山一角。情商——也就是人们处理自己及他人情绪的方式，在幸福和成功上扮演着至关重要的角色。

Not sure how emotionally intelligent you are? Here are 14 signs you have a high EQ.

还不清楚自己的情商到底怎样?下面14个信号就告诉你：你其实拥有高情商!

1. You're curious about people you don't know.

你对不认识的人感到好奇。

Do you love meeting new people, and naturally tend to ask lots of questions after you've been introduced to someone? If so, you have a certain degree of empathy, one of the main components² of emotional intelligence.

你是不是喜欢结交新朋友、介绍后会忍不住问各种问题?如果这样，说明你具备一定的共鸣感——这是情商的一个重要因素。

2. You're a great leader.

你是一个优秀的领导。

Exceptional leaders often have one thing in common. In addition to the traditional requirements for success -- talent, a strong work ethic and ambition, for instance -- they possess a high degree of emotional intelligence.The higher the rank of a person considered to be a star performer, the more emotional intelligence capabilities³ showed up as the reason for his or her effectiveness.

优秀领导通常都有一个共同点。除了禀赋、良好的职业道德和勃勃雄心等传统的成功品质，他们还有非常高的情商。一个人越是业绩斐然，其高效背后的情商也就越突出。

3. You know your strengths and weaknesses.

你清楚自己的优缺点。

A big part of having self-awareness is being honest with yourself about who you are -- knowing where you excel, and where you struggle, and accepting these things about yourself. An emotionally intelligent person learns to identify their areas of strength and weakness, and analyze⁴ how to work most effectively within this framework.

“自知”很大部分就是要诚实面对自我——清楚知道自己擅长什么又不在行什么，然后接受这样的自己。情商高的人懂得看清自己的优缺点，然后在此基础上想办法做到最好。

4. You know how to pay attention.

你懂得如何集中注意力。

Do you get distracted by every tweet, text and passing thought? If so, it could be keeping you from functioning on your most emotionally intelligent level. But the ability to withstand distractions⁵ and focus on the task at hand is a great secret to emotional intelligence.

你会不会因为每条推特、短信或杂念而分心?倘若如此，那可不利于你好好发挥情商。情商的一大秘诀就在于抵制诱惑、专注当下。

5. When you're upset, you know exactly why.

你明白自己为何心烦意乱。

We all experience a number of emotional fluctuations⁶ throughout the day, and often we don't even understand what's causing a wave of anger or sadness. But an important aspect of self-awareness is the ability to recognize where your emotions are coming from and to know why you feel upset.

人们平常都会遇到一些情绪波动，而且往往并不清楚愤怒或难过背后的原因。而自知的重点就是能明白引起情绪低落的根源。

6. You can get along with most people.

你能和大多数人相处好。

Having fulfilling, effective relationships -- that's a sign of emotional intelligence.

高情商的一个标志就是——拥有愉快而有益的人际关系。

7. You care deeply about being a good, moral person.

你竭力要求自己做善良有道德的人。

One aspect of emotional intelligence is our "moral identity," which has to do with the extent to which we want to see ourselves as ethical⁷, caring people. If you're someone who cares about building up this side of yourself (regardless of how you've acted in past moral situations), you might have a high EQ.

“道德性”也是情商的一方面，即人们是否愿意成为有道德有爱心的人。如果你很注重培养自己这一素质(不管以前道德如何)，那么你可能拥有高情商。

8. You take time to slow down and help others.

你愿意放慢节奏去帮他人。

If you make a habit of slowing down to pay attention to others, whether by going slightly out your way to say hello to someone or helping⁸ an older woman onto the subway, you're exhibiting emotional intelligence. Many of us, a good portion of the time, are completely focused on ourselves. And it's often because we're so busy running around in a stressed-out state trying to get things done that we simply don't take the time to notice (much less help) others.

如果你常常用心留意他人——向他人淡淡地打个招呼或搀老奶奶乘地铁，那么你是一个有情商的人。很多人在多数时候只一门心思关注自己，大家都疲于奔命处于一个高压的状态，根本就无暇顾及他人，更别说提供帮助了。

9. You're good at reading people's facial expressions.

你很善于察言观色。

Being able to sense how others are feeling is an important part of having a good EQ.

善于体察他人的情绪也是高情商的一个重要因素。

10. After you fall, you get right back up.

你跌倒了能马上站起来。

How you deal with mistakes and setbacks says a lot about who you are. High EQ individuals know that if there's one thing we all must do in life, it's to keep on going. When an emotionally intelligent person experiences a failure or setback⁹, he or she is able to bounce back quickly.

你解决错误和挫折的方式很能反应你的为人。高情商的人知道：如果生活中有件事不得不做，那就是继续前行。当这种人遇到失败或挫折，他们会尽快重振旗鼓。

11. You're a good judge of character.

你善于评判性格。

You've always been able to get a sense for who someone is pretty much right off the bat -- and your intuitions are rarely wrong.

你总能敏锐洞察出某人的性格，而且你的直觉很少出错。

12. You trust your gut¹⁰.

你相信自己的直觉。

An emotionally intelligent person is someone who feels comfortable following their intuition. If you're able to trust in yourself and your emotions, there's no reason not to listen to that quiet voice inside (or that feeling in your stomach) telling you which way to go.

情商高的人乐于听从直觉。如果你相信自己的感受，那就该听从内心的声音(或心里感受)告诉你该怎么办。

13. You've always been self-motivated.

你常常自我激励。

Were you always ambitious and hard-working as a kid, even when you weren't rewarded for it? If you're a motivated self-starter -- and you can focus your attention and energy towards the pursuit of your goals -- you likely have a high EQ.

小时候，就算得不到奖励，你也会雄心勃勃地努力吗?如果你能自我激励，并能全心全意追逐目标，那么你很可能拥有高情商。

14. You know when to say "no."

你知道何时该拒绝。

Self-regulation, one of the five components of emotional intelligence, means being able to discipline yourself and avoid unhealthy habits. Emotionally intelligent people are generally well equipped to tolerate stress (a bad-habit trigger for many of us) and to control their impulses.

“自我调节”是情商的五要素之一，表示有能力自我约束并避开不良习惯。压力是很多恶习的致因，而高情商的人一般都能适应压力并控制好自己的冲动。