True love is magical. True love is mystical?Right? Well, kind of. But it’s more than that, as anyone in a relationship can tell you. Read on to find ten things you need to know about true love.

真爱是神奇的。真爱是神秘的--对么？只对了一部分。远远不止这些，任何陷入爱河里的人们都可以给你答案。一起看看真爱的十个事实吧。

1. True love is not about finding¹ yourself in another

真爱不是迷失自己

Don’t fall in love, or think you’re in love, just because you want to find yourself. Your identity² is not to be someone’s other half?it’s to be yourself! Don’t get so swept up in your partner that you become them. You don’t need to be the number one fan of their favorite band or read all the books they read. Keep your interests and hobbies and you’ll be more interesting to, and interested in, your partner.

不要因为想找另一个自己就陷入，或认为自己陷入爱河。你不是要做别人的另一半--而是要做你自己。不要一味迎合另一半把自己变得像他们那般。你不要是他们最爱乐队的头号粉丝，也不需要去读他们读过的所有书籍。保持自己的兴趣爱好，你会对另一半更有兴趣，自身也会更有吸引力。

2. Self love is the best way to find true love

想爱人，先爱自己

It sounds like a cliche³, something your mom and girlfriends told you every time you were crying over a broken heart, but it’s true?you must love yourself before you can love anyone else. Be comfortable with yourself, even when you’re having a bad day. Know who you really are, deep down inside, and know what you want to do with your life. Being in love with yourself and having your life on track are not only incredibly self-satisfying, they’re really attractive qualities to a partner.

这听起来有点老生常谈，每次分手妈妈或闺蜜们都会这么告诉你，但这的确是真的-你必须先爱别人才能知道爱自己。让自己快乐开心，哪怕今天过得很遭。知道自己的真实面目，发掘内心，看看你到底想干些什么。爱上自己，快乐的生活，这不仅会让你十分幸福，还能真的吸引到另一半的关注哦。

3. True love is not demanding

真爱不是索取

Your partner should never ask you to change if you’re truly loved. And if you truly love your partner, you shouldn’t expect him to change. You got into a relationship because you liked each other, and you grew to love each other as you are. Why would you need to change someone you love so deeply? Accept them as they are, and you’ll get that consideration in return.

如果真的爱你，他绝对不会要求你去改变。如果你真的爱他，也不应该希望他去改变。你们能在一起是因为互相喜欢，正因为你是你，双方才会爱上。为什么要改变你深爱的人呢？接受他们，同样的，他们也不会再去要求你改变。

4. True love allows you to be yourself

真爱就是做你自己

Being yourself in front of your partner can seem scary at first. Waking up without any makeup⁴ on, and your hair a mess? What about him seeing you when you’re sick?runny nose, bloodshot eyes and all. It’s something you want to avoid as long as you can. But you shouldn’t feel that way. When you’re in love, even the worst illness is a beautiful experience because it’s worth it. Your partner helping⁵ you through a messy episode⁶ or kissing you with morning breath is a major step towards your future, and it shows how much he truly loves you.

刚开始在另一半面前做自己好像有点恐怖。头发乱糟糟没有化妆就起床？他要是看到你感冒的红鼻子，充满血丝的眼睛会有何感想？这些都是你想尽可能避免的情况。但其实不能那样想。在一起时，即使生病也是美好的体验，绝对值得。他帮你度过乱糟糟的清晨，或是牙也不刷就吻你，本身就是好的预兆，也能表现出他到底有多爱你。