5. True love comes naturally

真爱都是自然而然来的

Do you have doubts about your partner? Are you not sure they’re right for you? If you’re asking yourself too many questions about your partner, your relationship, and your future together, then you’re probably not in love. When you’re truly in love, you don’t question anything. It feels natural to be with your partner, and you know you can work through anything to achieve that future you’re dreaming of.

你对另一半有疑问么？是不是不确定到底他们是不是那个对的人？如果你总是对另一半，这段关系或者你们的未来有这些疑问，那么有可能你不爱他。真正爱的时候，你不会怀疑任何事情。好像跟他在一起是如此自然，你知道和他在一起能迎来一直梦想的那个未来。

6. To get love, you must give love

想获得爱，先施与爱

You can’t be in a loving relationship if you hold back. You can’t use love as a bargaining chip. Don’t tell your partner you love him only when he does something good around the house. Don’t give him the cold shoulder if he makes a mistake. You have to love him all the time, regardless¹ of his words or actions, because true love is unconditional². If you give your partner this much love, you’ll get it?and more!?in return.

吝啬的人是无法开展一段关系的。你不能把爱当成是讨价还价的筹码。不要跟他说除非他做了什么事你才会爱他。不要在他犯错时冷眼相待。你要一如既往的爱他，不管他说了什么做了什么，真爱是无条件的。如果你对他付出了这些，那么你肯定会得到更多作为回报。

7. True love is based on friendship

真爱基于友谊

So many TV show relationships are based on friends who fall in love over time. It’s a great premise³, and a nice daydream⁴, but life isn’t TV. You don’t need to be best friends with your partner since kindergarten for love to last. But you need to be friends with your partner. You need to be able to talk, to share jokes, and to enjoy each others’ company. Over time, the physical passion⁵ may fade⁶, but true friendship will last forever.

很多电视剧里爱情都是从朋友间产生的。这个起点很好，美好的白日梦，毕竟生活不是电视剧。你不需要和他从幼儿园就是好朋友再一路走下去直到相爱。但你的确需要跟另一半成为朋友。你需要时刻和他交谈，分享笑话，享受对方的陪伴。很多时候，身体激情也许会消退，但真正的友谊永流传。