Acknowledge the situation and understand how your internalized thoughts are sabotaging¹ your chances of living a fulfilled and happy life. Once you are aware of how your mind misleads you into feelings of insecurity, it’s easier to control and redirect your feelings.

1.承认自己目前的境遇，理解自己的内化思想是如何妨碍你过上满足幸福的生活的。一旦你意识到你的大脑是如何误导你陷入一种不安全感，你就能更加容易得控制和改变你的感觉了。

Look around you and assess what kind of people you have in your life. Are they the right people Do they make you feel good Remember you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Cease contact with anyone in your life who reinforces your feelings of insecurity.

2.审视你的周围，评估一下你生活中都有哪种类型的人。他们是合适的人吗？他们让你感觉很好嘛？记住每五个人里面就有一个人与你在一起的时间最长。不要再和那些你的生活中增加你不安全感的人联系。

Whip out a flip² chart and try to map out where in your life these feelings started coming up. Try to get to the origin of the feelings. Was it something in your childhood A bad relationship An overbearing boss at work

3.拿出一张表格，试着画出这些不安全感在你生活中开始出现的地方。尽量找出不安全感的根源。是你小时候的事情吗？不好的关系？工作中霸道的老板？

Make a plan to confront the origin of the thoughts. If it was a parent or friend, sit down and have a talk with them about how their behavior damaged you for instance. Of course, this isn’t always possible and sometimes in life, you simply cannot retrace³ your steps. In this case, write it down in a journal instead.

4.做一个计划来面对这些思想的起源。如果是来自父母之一或者朋友，你可以坐下来和他们谈谈他们的行为是如何伤害你的，举例来说。当然，这并不是总能实现，有时候在你的生活中，你仅仅是不能追溯你的脚步。这种情况下，可以在你的日志中写出来。

On another flip chart, write down all the things you’ve succeeded at. Your accomplishments⁴ and where you’ve made a difference. The more you note down, the more your level of confidence soars. Put this flip chart in a place where you can see it every day, and remind yourself you’re an awesome⁵ and amazing person. Every time you achieve something, add it to the list.

5.在另一个表格中，写下所有你成功做到的事情。你的成就，以及取得成就的地方。你写得越多，你的自信心水平增长得越多。把这张表格放在你每天能看到的地方，提醒你自己是很优秀的厉害人物。每次你取得一项成功，就添加到表格上去。