You’re going to want to make sure you’re with someone who can hold your attention and who still makes you feel fondly after the initial buzz has faded, right? That’s how all truly great relationships last rather than fizzling out. So I’ve rounded up the top 10 traits of a great girlfriend.

你想要确保交往对象能把你迷住，而且在最初的激情过后你还能对她有感觉，对吧？那就是所有真感情能维持而没有一拍两散的原因，所以我搜罗了好女朋友的10大特点。

1. She’s Loyal To You

她对你坚贞不渝

This is a pretty fundamental requirement of anyone in a monogamous relationship. This goes beyond simply not cheating on you or flirting¹. She should stick up for you around other people.

在一夫一妻制的关系中，这一条对任何人来说都是基本要求，这不仅指的是不能欺骗你或玩弄你，她还应该在他人面前支持你。

2. She’s Herself Around You

在你身边她会做好自己

One of the most crucial elements of successful long term relationships is that you can truly be yourself around each other. Sometimes this is physical，but, more importantly, it extends to how honest she can be with you about things that really matter to her, and how your behavior impacts her, too. So make sure you find a girl who can be up front with you.

一段成功持久的关系中最重要的要素之一就是你们能在彼此身边真正做自己。有时是指身体方面的，但更重要的是体现在面对对她很重要的事情时她对你多真诚，还有你的行为对她有多大影响，所以你要确保能找到一个对你坦率的女孩。

3. She Listens To Your Problems

她会倾听你的困难

Make sure your girlfriend is compassionate² enough to hear your problems and, even if she can’t always offer concrete solutions, she should at least be providing a shoulder to cry on.

确保你的女朋友足够有同情心能倾听你的困难，即使她不总能为你提供切实的解决方法，她至少应该为你提供一个依靠的肩膀。

4. She Lets You Be Vulnerable

她让你变得脆弱

Don’t be scared to cry or be soft and unguarded in front of her, and if you feel like you can’t or she’d mock you for it, she’s not the one for you.

不要害怕在她面前掉眼泪，或者表现出软弱或毫无戒备的样子。如果你感觉自己做不到或者她会因此嘲笑你，那她就不适合你。

5. She’s Got Your Back

她尊重你

You should be with someone who always speaks about you with respect. She’s allowed to criticize you, but pointless name-calling and attempts to shred³ your self-esteem shouldn’t ever be tolerated.

你的恋人在谈到你时应该尊重你。她可以批评你，但毫无意义的谩骂、试图毁掉你自尊的行为就令人无法容忍。

6. She Shares Your Values

你们有共同的价值观

You and your girlfriend don’t have to agree with each other on everything, but when it comes to your fundamental beliefs and values, you two should be aligned⁴. These often take a little while to come to light.

你和女友不一定每件事都意见一致，但涉及到基本信念和价值观时，你们应该没有分歧。这种默契通常需要一段时间来实现。

7. She Includes You In Her World

她允许你走进她的生活

If your girlfriend has never so much as mentioned you to her friends and family, that’s cause for alarm and a sign that she might not be taking things as seriously as you are.

如果你女朋友从未正式把你介绍给她的朋友和家人，那你就要提高警惕了，这标志着她可能不像你那样把你们之间的关系当回事。

8. You Find Her Attractive

你认为她很迷人

This one’s basic: a great girlfriend will be someone you find physically⁵ attractive. You’re going to want your girlfriend to care about her appearance and feel good about how she looks, whatever shape or size she is.

这一条是最基本的，一个好的女朋友会让你觉得很迷人。你想让女朋友在乎自己的外表，并且无论她身材如何都能对自己的外表很自信。

9. She’s Kind To The People In Your Life

她对你身边的人都很好

Respecting the people in your life is a sign that she wants to be more fully a part of it, so pay attention to how she speaks to and behaves towards the people who are important to you.

尊重你身边的人标志着她想更多地融入你的生活，所以你要注意她对那些对你来说很重要的人的说话方式和举动。

10. She Makes You Laugh

她会让你笑

The best relationships have dynamic where both people in the partnership⁶ can make each other laugh, so make sure you find a girl who cracks you up from time to time.

最好的恋情会有一种魔力，恋爱双方都能使对方大笑，所以你要确保自己找到了那个能不时把你逗笑的女孩。