12. Listen--this could be the most important one ever, but note that you should listen with empathy and not just hear what they are saying; you should get involved.

聆听——这非常重要，但注意聆听的时候你应该全情投入并参与其中，而不仅仅只是听到了对方说的话。

13. Encourage--positive support and being there for one another is also very important; seek their support and give them yours and be generous!

鼓励——彼此支持是非常重要的。向对方寻求支持并慷慨地给予对方支持！

14. Do it his or her way--sometimes; you need to do things their way just to show how much you love them and respect their feelings.

按照对方喜欢的方式行事——有时候，你可以按照对方喜欢的方式行事，并以此来传达你对伴侣的爱恋和尊重。

15. Know his or her needs--what good is a spouse¹ if he/she does not know the needs of their significant others? This should be your primary concern!

知道对方的需求——如果不知道另一半的需要，那还算什么好伴侣？这一点是首先需要留心的。

16. Compliment twice a day--everyone likes to hear something nice as a compliment; so give them that when it is due.

每天互相恭维两次——人人都爱听恭维话，所以在适当的时候说些好话。

17. Call during the day--but don't over do it and be obsessed² with calling him/her. Give them their space but also show them that you think of them by a 2-minutes phone call saying "how are you doing?"

打通电话——不要总是给对方打电话。给他们一些空间的同时，打个简短的问候电话，让他们了解你的惦念。