Have you ever found yourself in the place to console¹ anyone?

你有没有遇到过需要安慰别人的时候？

Every now and then we see people get emotional² around us.

时不时地，我们身边总会有人出现些情绪上的问题。

Sometimes they experience tragedy.

有时候是因为他们经历了惨剧。

Sometimes they just find out that life doesn't go as they planned.

有时候，只是因为他们发现生活并没有像他们计划的那样发展。

Either case, they feel sad and it seems natural for you to console them.

不过不管是哪种，他们心里都不好受，而你去安慰他们也显得很自然。

But what would you say?

不过，你会说些什么呢？

Would you say "I understand you."?

会说：“我理解你。”？

In my experience most people would.

据我的观察，大部分人都会这么说。

But don't. Someone with high EQ would never say that.

但是别。一个情商高的人是不会这么说的。

Because it doesn't console anyone. It only hurts and makes people angry.

因为这并不能安慰谁。这只会让人更受伤，而且会激怒别人。

Everyone's life is unique. Everyone's experience is unique. Everyone's feeling is unique.

每个人的生活都是独特的。每个人的体验都是独特的。每个人的感受都是独特的。

Don't assume³ that you know anyting about anyone.

别以为你能理解别人的事情。

'Cause you don't.

因为你不能。

Just like nobody really understands you. And you don't want people to tell you that they do.

就像你也知道没有人真的理解你。而你也不希望有人告诉你他们理解你。