RESPECT ONE ANOTHER

相互尊重

We respect each other's differences, needs, desires, and concerns. Frequently offer up words of encouragement, acknowledgment, and appreciation¹ to your spouse² for both the things they do and for who they are.

我们尊重彼此的差异、需求、愿望和担心。经常因为另一半做的事、他们的为人说一些鼓励、认可和欣赏的话。

TALK

谈话

And not just about the kids! Like, really talk to each other. My husband and I talk about everything from the weather (boring, I know) to crazy ideas that are sure to turn us into millionaires if we only took the time to pursue them.

不仅仅谈论孩子！就是那种真心交流的对话。我和丈夫会谈论一切事情，比如天气（我知道很无聊）和疯狂的想法（如果我们认真一点，我们真的会成为百万富翁）。

LAUGH

大笑

Laughter really is the best medicine. Plan a night out at your local comedy club, or cozy up on the couch with a funny movie. If watching someone else isn't your thing, corny jokes and old-fashioned pillow fights work just as well.

笑声真的是最好的药。制定计划，晚上去当地的喜剧俱乐部，或者躺在沙发上看一部搞笑电影。如果你不喜欢看别人，那古怪的笑话和老式枕头仗也能起到作用。

DATE EACH OTHER

约会

We take turns planning date nights. Sometimes it's dinner and a movie. Other times it's ice cream and a stroll up and down the aisles³. It doesn't matter where we go, as long as we're out together.

我们会轮流计划约会之夜。有时是吃饭、有时是看电影。有时是吃冰淇淋、漫步过道。去哪里并不重要，重要的是我们一起出去。

BE A UNITED FRONT

形成统一战线

We are a team. It's as simple as that. When it comes to decision making, planning, or dealing⁴ with family drama, always make sure you and your spouse are on the same page and approach every situation as a united front.

我们是一个团队，就是这么简单。在问题决策、计划或处理家庭闹剧等方面，总是确保你和另一半观点一致，会形成统一战线处理一切情况。

MAINTAIN YOUR OWN SENSE OF SELF

维持自我

We love spending time together, but we also need time away from each other every now and again. Allowing each other the freedom to take a day or night to ourselves gives us the opportunity to reset⁵, and it gives us another reason to appreciate what we have.

我们喜欢呆在一起，但我们也需要时不时的离开彼此。让彼此自由，给他们一天或一晚的时间独处，让他们有机会重置自己，同时也给了我们另一个理由去感激我们所拥有的。

FIGHT

争吵

We fight. Over the course of our relationship, we've learned how to carefully choose our words, be sensible, and work to find some common ground. Remember that both sides can't always get what they want, and comprise is key.

我们会吵架。在这段感情中，我们学会了如何谨慎的选择我们的用词、要明智、努力找到共同点。记住每一方不可能总是得到他们想要的东西，妥协也是关键。

Apologize

道歉

Apologizing can be hard even when you know you're wrong, and it's especially hard when emotions are running high. But do your best to take a deep breath, and say you're sorry. You'll be surprised at how quickly those two words can turn everything around.

即使你知道自己错了，道歉也是一件难事，尤其是情绪高涨的时候，道歉更为困难。但尽量深呼吸，说句对不起。你会收到令人惊奇的效果，这句话能让一切发生快速变化。

BE EACH OTHER'S BIGGEST SUPPORTER

成为彼此的最大支持者

Validate⁶ your spouse with encouraging words. When they succeed, share in their excitement. When they fail, lift them up.

用鼓励的话语认可另一半。当他们成功的时候，和他们一起激动。失败的时候，给他们打气。