1. Leave the past in the past

过去的就过去了

When you meet someone¹ new, leave any negative² feelings³ or past heartbreaks just where they should be—in the past.

当你遇见新的合适的对象，让以往所有的消极情绪或伤心事都留在过去。

2. You won’t meet someone new in your living⁴ room宅在家里你遇不到新对象

Well, maybe a cute guy⁵ will deliver⁶ your new sofa, but chances⁸ are you’re going⁹ to meet someone by getting out there and trying new things—online dating, taking a class, etc. Tell everyone, especially¹¹ your married¹² friends, that you’re looking to meet someone and ALWAYS go to parties. Because you truly¹³ never know who you’ll meet.

好吧，也许会有个帅小伙把你订的沙发送货上门，但更实在的是你要走出门口去相遇，并尝试一些新鲜的玩意儿--网络交友、参加学习班等等。告诉别人，尤其你那群已婚的朋友，你在找对象，你也总会参加聚会。因为你真的不知道你会不会遇见那个TA。

3. Give the guy a chance⁷

给他一个机会

When you were 20 your list was “he must be tall, dark¹⁴ and handsome¹⁵。” Try going against¹⁶ type¹⁷. It just might¹⁸ be a perfect¹⁹ fit²⁰.

当你20岁时，你的理想要求是“他必须要高，黝黑的肤色，还要帅。” 抛开这些标准再试试。也许他会成为你的完美另一半。

4. Look at blind²¹ dates like a first date

把相亲当初次约会看待

Many women met their husbands²² on blind dates, and you can too! If you’re not sure you want to sit in a noisy restaurant, go out and do something fun. One of my friends went to a baseball game, and she and her date each brought²³ a friend. They had²⁴ a blast²⁵ and got²⁶ married one year later²⁷.

很多女性都是通过相亲遇到他们现在的丈夫的，你也可以！如果你不太想坐在嘈杂的饭馆里，那就去外面，玩一些有趣的。我有个朋友是在一次棒球比赛相亲的，她和她的约会对象各自带了一个朋友去。他们玩得很开心。一年后，他们结婚了。

5. Time is on your side²⁸

慢慢来

Take your time in getting to know your guy and don’t feel in a rush²⁹ to meet his children or have him meet yours. It starts with the two of you. Make sure this is someone you want in your life³⁰.

花点时间去了解你的对象，不要急匆匆地去看他的孩子或是让他见你的孩子。一切从你们倆开始。确保这个男人是你生命中要找到的那个人。

6. Someone to come home to

有人在等你回家

When you’re ready to move in together you will discover³¹ how wonderful it is to come home to the one you love. Be prepared³² for some give and take—for example, over which of each others³³’ belongings³⁴ stay or go.

当你准备好搬到一起住时，你会发现回到一个有爱人在的家是多么的美好！为互相迁就做好准备吧--比如，双方所有物的去留。

7. Your wedding³⁵, your way

你的婚礼，按你的方式来

Now you’re in love and it’s time to have your wedding exactly³⁶ how you want it. Remember it is all about you and the man of your dreams³⁷. Whatever³⁸ you want is the way to go.

现在你正处于热恋，是时候按你想的方式举办婚礼了。记住，你和你梦中情人就是一切，只管去做你想要的。

8. Happily³⁹ ever¹⁰ after can happen to you

从此以后幸福常伴你左右

It’s never too late to find true⁴⁰ love. We did⁴¹, and you can too!

真爱永远都不嫌迟。我们做到了，你也可以！