如何让女孩来吻你？

One of the most common questions that gets asked is "When should I kiss the girl?" 男人们最常问的问题就是“我什么时候可以吻她？”

The number one thing men worry about is rejection¹. No man wants to attempt to kiss a woman only to get shut down on the spot. Most men are so scared that they won't even bother trying to a kiss a girl!

男人最害怕的事莫过于被拒绝了。当男人想要与女孩接吻时被拒绝，这种感觉没有几个男人受得了。大多数男人害怕被拒绝，所以连尝试亲吻女生的想法也被扼杀在了摇篮里。

So when do you know when a girl is ready to be kissed and how can you make her want to kiss you?

那么，你怎么知道一个女生什么时候准备好你去亲她？又或者让她主动来亲你？

There are a number of ways to do this:

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感情是基础

1) Build value

感情是基础

A girl isn't going to kiss you without getting to know you first. Therefore, you must build a sufficient amount of rapport² and comfort before a girl will even think about touching you, let alone kissing you! You need to tell stories, flirt³, touch, and ultimately get her sexually attracted to you before you can even think about going in for the kiss.

在女孩子了解你之前，她是不会亲你的。因此，想要女孩子触碰你，甚至亲吻你，你就要给她足够多的亲切感和舒适感。你可以给她讲讲故事，调调情，碰碰小手，直到对方被你吸引，这时你才能想想接吻这样的举动。

One of the best ways to build comfort is, as I said, touch! Touching is an extremely intimate and fun way to get a girl interested in you. If a girl is comfortable with your touch, she's well on her way to get comfortable with the idea of you kissing her.

建立舒适感的一个好方法就是触碰。要想让女孩子对你感兴趣，触碰是一种非常亲密而且有趣的方式。如果女孩子对你的触碰感到自在的话，她也会逐渐对你想要亲吻她的想法感到自在。

搜寻兴趣指标

2) Check for IOI's

搜寻“兴趣指标”

IOI's or "Indicators⁴ of Interest" are clues women give off when they're genuinely interested in you. Here are examples of a few IOI's.

IOI是兴趣指标的意思。如果女孩子真的对你感兴趣的话，就会流露出这些“兴趣指标”。下面举几个例子：

-When a woman asks for your name

当她问你的名字时

-When a woman touches you

当她触碰你时

-When a woman fixes her hair when she sees you当她边看着你，边整理头发时

-When a woman faces you during a conversation当她在谈话中看着你时

-When a woman looks at you for no apparent reason当她没有特殊理由而望着你时

And so on. If you begin to get these IOI's from your targeted female, chances are she's ready to be kissed!

诸如此类的动作就是“兴趣指标”。如果你从你心仪的对象那里得到这些暗示的话，那就意味着，她已经准备好你去亲吻她了！

索吻测试

3) Run the "Kiss Test"

索吻测试

This test should only be conducted if you're receiving IOI's on a regular basis. The general rule of thumb is one IOI per minute. If you've achieved this "IOI Rate", she's primed and ready for the Kiss Test!

只有当你不断得到“兴趣指标”的暗示时，你才能进行索吻测试。经验之谈是如果你到了每分钟就能收到一个暗示的阶段，那说明她已经准备好了，你可以去尝试亲吻她了！

The easiest place to conduct the Kiss Test is on a couch where you are both sitting down. If you think she's ready for the kiss test, lean over to her and play with her hair a little bit. Start touching her hair from the top of her head all the way down to her chin. If she likes what's happening, lean in for the kiss! Simple!

进行索吻测试最好的地方就是在你们同时坐着的沙发上。如果你觉得她已经准备好了，那么靠向她，拨弄她的头发。从头顶到下巴，一路从上到下地触摸她的头发。如果她不反对你这么做的话，靠近她，准备吻她吧！就这么简单！