Jackie Lantry is a part-time hospital clerk in Rehoboth, Mass. She and her husband have adopted two girls and two boys from China. When Jackie asked her children what they believed in, they said "family."
“It was not therapy, counselors1 or medications. It did not cost money, require connections or great privilege. It was love: just simple, plain, easy to give.”
I believe in the ingredients of love, the elements from which it is made. I believe in love''s humble2, practical components3 and their combined power.
We adopted Luke four years ago. the people from the orphanage4 dropped him off at our hotel room without even saying goodbye. He was nearly six years old, only 28 pounds and his face was crisscrossed with scars. Clearly, he was terrified. "What are his favorite things?" I yelled. "Noodles," they replied as the elevator door shut.
Luke kicked and screamed. I stood between him and the door to keep him from bolting. His cries were anguished5, animal-like. He had never seen a mirror and tried to escape by running through one. I wound my arms around him so he could not hit or kick. After an hour and a half he finally fell asleep, exhausted6. I called room service. They delivered every noodle dish on the menu. Luke woke up, looked at me and started sobbing7 again. I handed him chopsticks and pointed8 at the food. He stopped crying and started to eat. He ate until I was sure he would be sick.
That night we went for a walk. Delighted at the moon, he pantomimed, "What is it?" I said, "The moon, it''s the moon." He reached up and tried to touch it. He cried again when I tried to give him a bath until I started to play with the water. By the end of his bath the room was soaked and he was giggling9. I lotioned him up, powdered him down and clothed him in soft PJs. We read the book One Yellow Lion. He loved looking at the colorful pictures and turning the pages. By the end of the night he was saying, "one yellow lion."
the next day we met orphanage officials to do paperwork. Luke was on my lap as they filed into the room. He looked at them and wrapped my arms tightly around his waist.
He was a sad, shy boy for a long time after those first days. He cried easily and withdrew at the slightest provocation10. He hid food in his pillowcase and foraged11 in garbage cans. I wondered then if he would ever get over the wounds of neglect that the orphanage had beaten into him.
It has been four years. Luke is a smart, funny, happy fourth-grader. He is loaded with charm and is a natural athlete. His teachers say he is well behaved and works very hard. Our neighbor says she has never seen a happier kid.
When I think back, I am amazed at what transformed this abused, terrified little creature. It was not therapy, counselors or medications. It did not cost money, require connections or great privilege. It was love: just simple, plain, easy to give. Love is primal12. It is comprised of compassion13, care, security, and a leap of faith. I believe in the power of love to transform. I believe in the power of love to heal.
1 counselors ['kaʊnsləz] 第8级 | |
n.顾问( counselor的名词复数 );律师;(使馆等的)参赞;(协助学生解决问题的)指导老师 | |
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2 humble [ˈhʌmbl] 第7级 | |
adj.谦卑的,恭顺的;地位低下的;vt.降低,贬低 | |
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3 components [kəm'pəʊnənt] 第7级 | |
(机器、设备等的)构成要素,零件,成分; 成分( component的名词复数 ); [物理化学]组分; [数学]分量; (混合物的)组成部分 | |
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4 orphanage [ˈɔ:fənɪdʒ] 第9级 | |
n.孤儿院 | |
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5 anguished ['æŋɡwɪʃd] 第7级 | |
adj.极其痛苦的v.使极度痛苦(anguish的过去式) | |
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6 exhausted [ɪgˈzɔ:stɪd] 第8级 | |
adj.极其疲惫的,精疲力尽的 | |
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7 sobbing ['sɒbɪŋ] 第7级 | |
<主方>Ⅰ adj.湿透的 | |
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8 pointed [ˈpɔɪntɪd] 第7级 | |
adj.尖的,直截了当的 | |
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9 giggling [ˈɡiɡlɪŋ] 第7级 | |
v.咯咯地笑( giggle的现在分词 ) | |
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10 provocation [ˌprɒvəˈkeɪʃn] 第9级 | |
n.激怒,刺激,挑拨,挑衅的事物,激怒的原因 | |
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11 foraged [ˈfɔ:rɪdʒd] 第10级 | |
v.搜寻(食物),尤指动物觅(食)( forage的过去式和过去分词 );(尤指用手)搜寻(东西) | |
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12 primal [ˈpraɪml] 第11级 | |
adj.原始的;最重要的 | |
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13 compassion [kəmˈpæʃn] 第8级 | |
n.同情,怜悯 | |
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