Keep Your Dark Side From Running Your Life

太阳和黑暗云雾共存的心灵

“Dwelling¹ on the negative simply contributes to its power.”

沉缅于消极事物，只会增强消极的力量。

Every light has darkness to balance it out.

有光明的地方，必定有黑暗以平衡。

People can be kind or mean or beautiful or ugly. We sometimes are compassionate² or selfish, and at other times we feel safe or insecure, or confident or hopeless.

人们或善良或狡诈，或漂亮或丑陋。我们有爱心的一面，也有自私的一面。在不同的场合，我们或许对自己很有自信，很有安全感，但或许也会觉得绝望，充满不安感。

Shove those negative feelings deep down like proverbial skeletons in the closet. Put those bad thoughts and desires in a box and don’t ever open it. But you can no more avoid dealing³ with your shadow than you can avoid using your left foot when you walk.

你可以把负面感情藏得严严实实的，就像那些不可告人的秘密一样。把不好的思想和渴望都藏起来不外露，永远不要触碰。但是，你不可能永远躲避着不去处理这些问题，就像你走路时，你不可能不迈出步子。

If you ignore your shadow, it will take on a life of its own. It will fester and eat away at you.

如果你忽视心中的阴霾，它将会永远的停留，并不断壮大，最后完完全全地把你吞噬。

Here are some steps to get on the right track.

以下是让一切走回正轨的一些方法。

Commit to Exploring Your Dark Side

致力于探索自己的黑暗面

It’s a trip that’s not always going to be nice and pleasant. You will find out things didn’t know about yourself, and many of them won’t be positive. You have to commit to the search for truth in order to minimize the impact your shadow has on your life going forward.

这趟旅程并不是让人身心愉悦和一帆风顺的。你不能指望所有人都对你了如指掌，因此他们对你的评价也不可能全部是正面和积极的。你必须努力找出背后的真相，以减轻负面阴影对你人生的影响。

List Your Trigger Emotions

给触发你不良情绪的东西列个表

Come up with triggers for destructive behaviors, such as frustration⁴, loneliness, hunger, low self-esteem, nervousness, and the like.

想一下能触发你做破坏性行为的事情，如挫败、寂寞、饥饿、自尊心低下、紧张等等。