Nabbing a wealthy husband might seem like an outdated¹ dream.

钓个金龟婿可能似乎看起来已经过时了。

But one Mumsnet user asked whether women should still be encouraged to 'marry well' and find a man who earns enough to support the family financially.

但是Mumsnet（英国著名育儿网站）一名用户最近问道，是否仍然应该鼓励女性“嫁得好”，找一个挣钱足够多可以养家的人。

The question divided opinion. Some said 'marrying well' should not mean finding a rich man but rather a partner who is 'kind and clever with a strong work ethic²' while others warned it was 'idealistic' to think all women can be financially independent.

人们对这个问题的分歧很大。一些人认为，“嫁得好”不意味着要找一个有钱的男人，而是应该找一个“善良、聪明、有良好职业道德”的人；而另一些人则警告称，所有女性都可以经济上独立，这是“不切实际的”。

Taking to the online forum³, Mumsnet user windygallows, who is in her 40s, said she could see the way some of her friends benefited from having a wealthy husband. It allowed them to be stay-at-home mothers without the financial worries.

在Mumsnet上提问的是一名40多岁的女性--“windygallows”，她表示，她看到自己一些朋友嫁个有钱的丈夫之后得到了很多好处。这使得她们可以待在家里做全职妈妈，而不用担心财政上的问题。

She explained that as a single mother she had experienced first-hand the 'slog' of raising a child on one salary, adding: 'Marrying well doesn't mean a good marriage or relationship but it does make things easier.'

她解释说，作为一个单身妈妈，她亲身经历了用一个人的薪水抚养一个孩子的“艰辛”。她补充说道：“嫁得好并不一定意味着良好的婚姻和关系，但是的确能让事情轻松不少。”

The post sparked dozens of responses. One user said looking for a wealthy partner would help deal with the 'sad truth' that even those who work hard can struggle financially.

这篇帖子引来了数十条回复。一名用户表示，找一个富有的伴侣的确有助于应对这个“可悲的真相”--即使那些努力工作的人金钱上也不宽裕。

'So you need family money. And if you haven't got it, life will be easier if you find someone who has,' the user wrote.

这位用户写道：“你需要钱来养家，而如果你自己挣不到，找个能挣钱的人，生活就会简单许多。”

Another pointed⁴ out that her husband's salary had helped her maintain a good lifestyle even after she became disabled and could no longer work.

另一名用户则表示，虽然她成为残疾人不能够再工作，但是她丈夫的薪水还是帮她维持了不错的生活。

The user wrote: 'Very fortunately my husband is in the top 0.1% of earners so yes I have this disability which impacts hugely on my life; but I am lucky I do not have to think about money and my life would without question be very, very hard as I am not able to earn.'

这名用户写道：“非常幸运的是，我丈夫是收入最高的那0.1%中的人。所以虽然残疾严重影响了我的生活，我却很幸运不用考虑钱的问题，而我的生活也不会因为我无法挣钱而变得非常非常艰难。”

However other users blasted the 'anti-feminist view'. Several pointed out that marrying rich does not guarantee stability or happiness.

然而其他用户抨击了这一“反女权主义观点”。一些人指出，嫁给有钱人并不能保证稳定和幸福。