3.Mean old ladies

3.刻薄的老太太

There is always a reason why an old lady gives you a stern look – you are being too loud, you are dressed inappropriately, you are not crossing the street in the right place. Sometimes it can be endearing, but if you are already having a bad day, a mean old lady can drive you to the edge of frustration¹.

老太太严厉地看着你，必定会有一个原因：你说话声音太大了，你的穿着不得体，你没有在正确的地方过马路。有时这也挺讨人喜欢的，但是如果你心情已经很糟糕了，那么一个刻薄的老太太会把你逼到崩溃的边缘。

What to do about it:

如何应对：

I've come to realize that when people initiate² conflicts, it is actually an expression of their inner state expressed externally. You, your personality, your looks or your actions have nothing to do with it. It is not personal, so why take it personally?

我渐渐意识到，每当人们激起矛盾，这实际上是一种将内在状态外化的表现。你、你的个性、你的外貌还有你的行为与此无关。这并不是关乎某个人的事情，所以为什么认为这是针对你的呢？