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赞美女性的正确方式
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  • Never neg

    不要打压对方

    Negging – a favourite of pickup1 artists and other shady characters – is basically an insult disguised as a compliment.

    表面在赞美,实际上却是在侮辱对方,这是把妹达人最喜欢用的伎俩。

    You may not mean to neg a woman, but a compliment might veer2 into that territory. For example: ‘You look so cute! My gran has the exact same dress!’ or ‘I adore your little snub nose.’

    有时候你在试图赞美一个女人的时候,无意中也可能贬损了对方。比如:“你看上去真可爱!我奶奶也有一条那样的裙子!”或者“我喜欢你的小蒜头鼻!”

    These are ‘compliments’ that will earn you a cold silence from a woman. She’s not going to notice the ‘cute’ part; it doesn’t count when she’s worried that her dress makes her look matronly or that she has an unfortunate nose.

    如果你说了这些话,就等着冷场吧。对方不会注意到夸赞她的那部分,只会注意到你在说她穿着老气或者鼻子长得丑。

    There are plenty of other things you can compliment her on that won’t have the added effect of making her feel insecure.

    可以赞美的方面有很多,你完全可以做到不在赞美时打击对方。

    Don’t make a joke of it

    别开玩笑

    Flirting3 can be scary at the best of times. You’re making yourself vulnerable when you do it, and it’s perfectly4 natural to want to offset5 that with humour. You want to tease a woman instead of complimenting her – but being earnest is probably the best approach when it comes to compliments. Women recognise sincerity6 and are grateful for it.

    就算天时地利人和,撩妹也没那么容易。处于被动状态的你为了不那么尴尬,想说几句幽默的话来缓解一下气氛。于是你就想弃用赞美转而对她进行调侃——殊不知真诚才是最好的赞美方式。当你拿出诚意时,对方是能够感受到的,而且会很感激你。

    Instead of ‘I’d tell you how cute you look today, but of course you already know that hahahahaha’, try a simple ‘You look really lovely today, by the way.’

    错误的赞美方式是“我想说你今天很可爱,不过,你应该早就知道了,哈哈哈”,正确的打开方式是这样的:“对了,你今天看上去很可爱。”

    That way, she won’t have to smile awkwardly or wonder whether it’s a joke or not.

    这样,对方就不需要尴尬地对你微笑,也不用在心里嘀咕你说的到底是不是真心话。

    Do compliment her on things other than her appearance

    赞美她们外表之外的东西

    When complimenting women, it’s good to keep in mind that women are likely to be wary7 of comments on their physical appearance, and are much more receptive to compliments on their intelligence, wit, or sense of humour (In fact, they are almost never appreciated for the latter, so go ahead, tell her that she’s one of the funniest people you know).

    赞美女性时,要记住女性对于别人赞美自己外表总是防心很重,相比之下,女性更喜欢别人赞美她们的才智或幽默感(事实上,人们总是容易忽视女性的幽默感,所以不妨告诉对方,她是你见过的最风趣的人)。

    If you do make a comment on her physical appearance, the golden rule is to keep it general. ‘You look beautiful,’ to your date, NOT ‘you have a very sexy neck.’ No matter how sexy her neck is, pointing out one hyperspecific area of her body can feel gross and objectifying.

    如果你非要称赞人家的外表,黄金法则就是,不要说得太具体,用“你真漂亮”代替“你的脖子很性感”,就算人家的脖子再性感,都不要具体指出来,否则会让人感觉恶心并有物化对方之嫌。

    Don’t be abrasive8 or grudging9

    别一副不情不愿的样子

    Sadly many men adopt a slightly hostile or abrasive tone when they compliment women. It’s another defence mechanism10 that you have to let go of.

    可悲的是,很多直男在赞美女性的时候总是带着些许敌意或者不情愿的语气,这其实是心理防御机制在搞鬼。

    Remember, the purpose of a compliment is to make somebody feel better about themselves. Do it with a smile on your face and in a pleasant tone: don’t say it as if you had a gun to your head.

    记住,赞美是为了让对方自我感觉更良好,脸上带笑、语气愉快是最好的,不要给人不情不愿的感觉。

    People don’t notice what you’re saying as much as the tone you’re saying it in, so a good compliment is completely wasted if it’s delivered poorly.

    很多时候,人们会更多注意他人说话的语调,而不是内容。所以,如果赞美的好话不能好好地说,那还不如不说。

    Finally, remember how powerful compliments can be

    最后,记住赞美的力量是强大的

    Ask most people and they’ll tell you: yes, they remember the best compliment they ever received. Even if it was five years ago, in the club loo and it was a drunk compliment from another girl.

    如果你去问一下,很多人都会告诉你:他们记得自己收到过的最好的赞美。即便那些赞美来自5年前、发生在一个俱乐部厕所间或是另一个女孩在醉酒状态下说出来的,它也仍然有力量。

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    1 pickup [ˈpɪkʌp] ANkxA   第8级
    n.拾起,获得
    参考例句:
    • I would love to trade this car for a pickup truck. 我愿意用这辆汽车换一辆小型轻便卡车。||The luck guy is a choice pickup for the girls. 那位幸运的男孩是女孩子们想勾搭上的人。
    2 veer [vɪə(r)] 5pQyC   第10级
    vt.转向,顺时针转,改变;n.转向
    参考例句:
    • He is unlikely to veer from his boss's strongly held views. 他不可能背离他老板的强硬立场。
    • If you fall asleep while driving, you'll probably veer off the road. 假如你开车时打瞌睡,可能会驶离道路。
    3 flirting [flə:tɪŋ] 59b9eafa5141c6045fb029234a60fdae   第7级
    v.调情,打情骂俏( flirt的现在分词 )
    参考例句:
    • Don't take her too seriously; she's only flirting with you. 别把她太当真,她只不过是在和你调情罢了。 来自《现代汉英综合大词典》
    • 'she's always flirting with that new fellow Tseng!" “她还同新来厂里那个姓曾的吊膀子! 来自子夜部分
    4 perfectly [ˈpɜ:fɪktli] 8Mzxb   第8级
    adv.完美地,无可非议地,彻底地
    参考例句:
    • The witnesses were each perfectly certain of what they said. 证人们个个对自己所说的话十分肯定。
    • Everything that we're doing is all perfectly above board. 我们做的每件事情都是光明正大的。
    5 offset [ˈɒfset] mIZx8   第7级
    n.分支,补偿;vt.抵消,补偿;vi.装支管
    参考例句:
    • Their wage increases would be offset by higher prices. 他们增加的工资会被物价上涨所抵消。
    • He put up his prices to offset the increased cost of materials. 他提高了售价以补偿材料成本的增加。
    6 sincerity [sɪn'serətɪ] zyZwY   第7级
    n.真诚,诚意;真实
    参考例句:
    • His sincerity added much more authority to the story. 他的真诚更增加了故事的说服力。
    • He tried hard to satisfy me of his sincerity. 他竭力让我了解他的诚意。
    7 wary [ˈweəri] JMEzk   第8级
    adj.谨慎的,机警的,小心的
    参考例句:
    • He is wary of telling secrets to others. 他谨防向他人泄露秘密。
    • Paula frowned, suddenly wary. 宝拉皱了皱眉头,突然警惕起来。
    8 abrasive [əˈbreɪsɪv] 3yDz3   第10级
    adj.使表面磨损的;粗糙的;恼人的
    参考例句:
    • His abrasive manner has won him an unenviable notoriety. 他生硬粗暴的态度让他声名狼藉。
    • She had abrasions to her wrists where the abrasive rope had scraped her. 她的手腕有多出磨伤,那是被粗糙的绳子擦伤的。
    9 grudging [ˈgrʌdʒɪŋ] grudging   第12级
    adj.勉强的,吝啬的
    参考例句:
    • He felt a grudging respect for her talents as an organizer. 他勉强地对她的组织才能表示尊重。
    • After a pause he added "sir" in a dilatory, grudging way. 停了一会他才慢吞吞地、勉勉强强地加了一声“先生”。
    10 mechanism [ˈmekənɪzəm] zCWxr   第7级
    n.机械装置;机构,结构
    参考例句:
    • The bones and muscles are parts of the mechanism of the body. 骨骼和肌肉是人体的组成部件。
    • The mechanism of the machine is very complicated. 这台机器的结构是非常复杂的。

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