Try to understand your partner's needs

试着了解另一半的需求

If your lover tells you they need more space, try to talk about it and find out the reason for this request. It is not always because of you, so do not get aggressive. They might have a stressful period at work, or feel like they need to hang out with their friends more, or just want to spend some time doing things they like.

如果爱人告诉你他/她需要更多的空间，那就试着和他/她沟通此事，了解他/她想要更多空间的原因。并不总是因为你才导致他们想要更多的空间，所以不要太咄咄逼人了。可能是因为他们的工作压力很大，也可能是因为他们觉得需要花更多的时间和朋友呆在一起，也可能只是因为他们想有时间做自己喜欢的事。

Understanding the reason for asking more space allows you to find out how much space you can give your partner in order to keep your relationship healthy and not cause any harm to it.

Do their need for space affects you in a negative way?

了解另一半想要更多空间的原因能让你做到心中有数--该给对方多少空间以继续保持恋情美满、且不会造成任何伤害。

If your lover wants more time for his or her hobbies, you can schedule specific days on which they can do what they like but if they just tell you they need some time, it might be difficult to understand precisely¹ what it means.

如果爱人希望能将更多的时间花在爱好上，那你可以给他们做出安排，让他们在特定的日子里做他们想做的事情。但如果他/她只是告诉你他/她需要一些时间，那理解个中涵义就有点困难了。

Do not let space become distance

不要让空间变成距离

When you offer your partner the space they need, the situation might get a bit strange, and you might feel like you're getting distant from each other. To avoid that, you should check in from time to time.

当给予另一半他们所需要的空间时，情况会变得有些奇怪，你可能会产生这样的感觉：你们变得越来越疏离了。为了避免这种情况的发生，你需要不时的撩他/她一下。

This way, the space they are getting will not feel like a distance between you. Also, you can suggest to check in every Saturday night or at least once a week, adding that you understand their struggle and their need for personal space.

这样，他们既能得到想要的空间，又不会感到和你疏远。同时，你也可以告诉他/她，你想要每周六过去找他/她，或每周至少找一次。同时要补充说，你理解他们的痛苦，也知道他们需要个人空间。

Do not let this decision affect your relationship

不要让这个决定影响你们的感情

When thinking about offering more space to your partner, you should decide according to their personality. There are situations in which asking for space might be a way to manipulate² you, such as:

考虑给另一半更多空间的时候，你应该根据他们的个性来做出具体决定。因为在某些情况下，另一半希望拥有更多空间其实是为了操纵你，比如这些情况：

If your partner has a history of cheating.

另一半有出轨史。

If he or she is a liar³.

他/她会撒谎。

If they do not care about your needs.

他们一点儿都不关心你的需求。

You are the one that knows your partner best, so you should make a decision according to their personality.

你最了解另一半了，所以你应该根据他们的个性做出决定。