To begin with, there are only 4 points. People tend to read articles with many points so that they can continuously discover what’s wrong with them and change it ASAP. Those sessions ultimately waste the rest of the day, and pretty much the next few too.

首先我要说的是这里只有4个点，人们都喜欢有很多个点的文章，因为这样他们能不停地发现自己哪里出了问题，并能尽快改正。那些步骤只会浪费时间。

So here are 4 basic and simple ‘must adopt’ points that will help you feel more cozy around yourself.

所以这里4个简单基本的点会让你感觉到更加舒适。

1.Write a journal. Why? Because you can write your heart out and no one gets to know how you are feeling. Cry, laugh, move back in time, or forward, ponder over a thought or a feeling. Write it out!

写日记。为什么？因为你可以把自己的心声写出来，没有人知道你的感觉。哭、笑、回忆过去或是期盼未来、思考或是感觉。都将其写下来。

2.Read a book you used to when you were a child. You will go back to when you were just another kid who was free of all life’s complexities¹. If not your childhood, pick any time of your life you felt genuinely happy and blend it in with your present.

读那些孩提时读过的书。你会回到孩提时那种不知世事艰难的时光。如果最开心的时候不是孩提时代，那就选你觉得最快乐的时候读的书，让现在也快乐起来。

3.Write for a site like this. You’re not only helping² other people, but are probably solving your own problems simultaneously³. When we overthink about our problems, we tend to lose the strategy to solve it. But when you want to help others like yourself, in order to show them the right path, you discover your own right one too.

像这样为某个网站写点什么东西。不仅能帮助他人，也许还能解决你自己的问题。当我们过多的思考自己的问题的时候，我们就会失去解决问题的能力。但是如果你是想做自己事情一样帮助的别人，为了给他人选择一条更正确的道路，你会发现你自己也能走在正确的道路上。

4.Feel like a boss （Even if you aren’t one）- You are the boss of your own life. On your way to school/college/office, grab a Starbucks （or a simple fruit）。 Think about what you have to achieve today and make a game plan on your way. Stick by it and feel proud that you did it! Now go back home and relax and plan for the next day. Continue doing this and in the long run, it will boost your confidence and make you more resistant⁴ to the world.

像一个老板一样（即使你不是）--你就是你自己生活中的老板。在去学校/大学/办公室的路上，手拿一杯咖啡（或是一个水果）。想象你今天要做完哪些事，给自己制定一些计划。并按计划执行，你会为你所做的事情而骄傲的。回到家、放松之后又可以计划第二天的事项。连续这样做，一阵子之后你的自信心会因此而增强，更能经受住外界给你的考验。

Adopt these, and you will accept yourself better. Once that is done, you will stop bothering about others and just live for yourself, shutting out rest of the world and feeling more complete and independent.

做完这些之后，你能做到更好的自己。做完这些以后，你不会再因某人而抱怨，只为自己而活，不会有抵触情绪、感觉自己更完美更独立。