Life can beat us up and suck the happiness out of our days.

生活能够打败我们，夺走我们的幸福。

Relationships, work, loss and physical illness can pile on and make our hearts hurt. But all of us know someone who seems happy even when they’re experiencing difficulty in some part of their life.

感情、工作、损失、身体上的疾病等发生后会让我们难受。但是我们知道有些人即使在人生路上经历困境之后似乎还是很快乐。

Their secret?

他们的秘诀是什么呢？

They’ve learned to control their thought lives.

他们已经学会了如何掌握自己的思想生活。

Here are five ways to change your mind.

这里有改变自我想法的五种方法。

1.Diagnose your thought patterns.

审视自己的思维模式

Take a quick biopsy of your reactions to situations and people that make you angry or unhappy, and diagnose the thought patterns you’ve formed around them. If your head is full of negative stuff- “Nobody likes me,” or “I’ll never succeed in this job,” etc., then there’s no room for anything good.

快速的看看自己在某些情况下的反应，看看那些让你生气不开心的人，审视一下在他们影响下你所形成的思维模式。要是脑子里满是消极负面的思想--“没人喜欢我”或者“在这个工作中我绝不可能会取得成功”等等，那么也就不会有什么好事情了。

Understanding that your thoughts are negative before you allow yourself to react to them emotionally gives you a chance to decide to replace it with a happier one.

知道自己思想消极之后你要允许自己情绪上有一定的反应，给你自己一个机会去快乐。

The result: More happiness.

其影响的结果就是：获得更多的快乐。

2.Identify attitude problems and get rid of them.

明确问题并处理好问题

Truth is, a lot of how other people react to us is largely determined¹ by the things we say and the attitudes we project.

事实上很多人对我们的态度很大程度上都取决于我们所说的事情以及我们做事的态度。

If you change your thinking from “I hate this job,” to “I’m going to try my best today to make work a better place,” you’ll be amazed at how things feel different.

要是你将自己的思想从“我讨厌这份工作”转变为“今天我要尽我最大的努力把事情做到最好”，你会惊奇地发现这种感觉是多么的不一样。

3. Stop thinking about the past.

不要再追忆过去

If you’re sad or unhappy about stuff that happened yesterday, guess what?

要是你一直因为以前所发生的那些事情而悲伤难过，你猜会怎样？

You’re spending today on something you can’t control or change. Neuroscientists have proven that focusing on regrets from the past harms your brain chemistry and keeps you stuck in unhappiness.

现在你还得应付那些你还不能掌控的事情。神经学家已经发现一直因过去的事情而悔恨的这一行为会伤害到你大脑中的化学物质，让你一直觉得不开心。

4.Cut out harmful connections.

切断那些对我们有害的人和事物的连系

The truth is, there are some people and some situations that are toxic² to us.

实际生活中，有些人、有些事对我自身会造成不良的影响。

If you frequently associate with people whose negativity, abuse, or behavior consistently produces pain and drains your joy, then sometimes the only solution is distance.

如果你频繁的和那些思想积极、爱抱怨、行动上伤害你或是让你不开心的人联系，有时候唯一的办法就是拉开和他们的距离。

If you can’t make it better, then save yourself by getting the toxicity³ out of your life. Your brain will thank you, and your happiness will rise.

如果不能将其变得更好，那就把这些对你不好的都赶出你的生活，保护好自己。你的理智会支持你这样做，你也能获得更快乐。

5.Doubt your doubts.

要怀疑你不确定性事件

If you’re stuck in a miserable⁴ place because you’re simply too afraid to try something new, have a little faith!

如果你是因为害怕尝试新事物而痛苦，你要多一点自信。

Believe in yourself that if you take a step towards life change things will improve, and your doubts will start to drain, making room for the possibility of a better life.

如果你向前迈进一小步生活会有所好转那就要相信你自己，你的疑虑也就会消除，给更好地生活多一点空间。

Even if you try something new and it doesn’t work out, your heart will beat stronger with the knowledge that you really tried. You’ll regroup and next time get a little closer to the change you really want.

如果你已经尝试了新东西但还是没效果，因为你已经努力过了所以心也会变得越来越坚强。重新调整好，下次一定会更接近你想要的那种改变。

If you want to feel happier, you have to tune up your thinking.

要是你想更快乐，还得调整好你的思维方式。

Change your thinking, and you’ll change your life.

改变思维，你的生活也会有所不同。