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打开心门拥抱生活
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  • We often close ourselves off when traumatic events happen in our lives; instead of letting the world soften1 us, we let it drive us deeper into ourselves. We try to deflect2 the hurt and pain by pretending it doesn’t exist, but although we can try this all we want, in the end, we can’t hide from ourselves. We need to learn to open our hearts to the potentials of life and let the world soften us.

    生活发生不幸时,我们常常会关上心门;世界不仅没能慰藉我们,反倒使我们更加消沉。我们假装一切仿佛都不曾发生,以此试图忘却伤痛,可就算隐藏得再好,最终也还是骗不了自己。既然如此,何不尝试打开心门,拥抱生活中的各种可能,让世界感化我们呢?

    Whenever we start to let our fears and seriousness get the best of us, we should take a step back and re-evaluate our behavior. The items listed below are six ways you can open your heart more fully and completely.

    当恐惧与焦虑来袭时,我们应该退后一步,重新反思自己的言行。下面六个方法有助于你更完满透彻地敞开心扉。

    1. Breathe into pain

    直面痛苦

    Whenever a painful situation arises in your life, try to embrace it instead of running away or trying to mask the hurt. When the sadness strikes, take a deep breath and lean into it. When we run away from sadness that’s unfolding in our lives, it gets stronger and more real. We take an emotion that’s fleeting3 and make it a solid event, instead of something that passes through us.

    当生活中出现痛苦的事情时,别再逃跑或隐藏痛苦,试着拥抱它吧;当悲伤来袭时,试着深呼吸,然后直面它。如果我们一味逃避生活中的悲伤,悲伤只会变得更强烈更真实——悲伤原本只是稍纵即逝的情绪,我们却固执地耿耿于怀。

    By utilizing4 our breath we soften our experiences. If we dam them up, our lives will stagnate5, but when we keep them flowing, we allow more newness and greater experiences to blossom.

    深呼吸能减缓我们的感受。屏住呼吸,生活停滞;呼出呼吸,更多新奇与经历又将拉开序幕。

    2. Embrace the uncomfortable

    拥抱不安

    We all know what that twinge of anxiety feels like. We know how fear feels in our bodies: the tension in our necks, the tightness in our stomachs, etc. We can practice leaning into these feelings of discomfort6 and let them show us where we need to go.

    我们都经历过焦灼的煎熬感,也都感受过恐惧造成的生理反应:脖子僵硬、胃酸翻腾。其实,我们有能力面对这些痛苦的感受,从中领悟到出路。

    The initial impulse is to run away — to try and suppress these feelings by not acknowledging them. When we do this, we close ourselves off to the parts of our lives that we need to experience most. The next time you have this feeling of being truly uncomfortable, do yourself a favor and lean into the feeling. Act in spite of the fear.

    我们的第一反应总是逃避——以为否认不安情绪的存在就能万事大吉,可这也恰好妨碍了我们经历最需要的生活体验。下次感到不安时,不管有多害怕,也请试着勇敢面对吧。

    3. Ask your heart what it wants

    倾听内心

    We’re often confused at the next step to take, making pros7 and cons8 lists until our eyes bleed and our brains are sore. Instead of always taking this approach, what if we engaged a new part of ourselves that isn’t usually involved in the decision making process?

    我们常对未来犹疑不定,反复考虑利弊直到身心俱疲。与其一味顾虑重重,不如从局外人的角度看待决策之事。

    I know we’ve all felt decisions or actions that we had to take simply due to our “gut9” impulses: when asked, we can’t explain the reasons behind doing so — just a deep knowing that it had to get done. This instinct is the part of ourselves we’re approaching for answers.

    其实很多决定或行动都是我们一念之间的结果:要是追问原因的话,恐怕我们自己也道不清说不明,只是感到直觉如此罢了。而这种直觉恰好是我们探索结果的潜在自我。

    To start this process, take few deep breaths then ask, “Heart, what decision should I make here? What action feels the most right?”

    开始前先做几次深呼吸,问自己:“内心认为该做什么样的决定呢?觉得采取哪个方案最恰当?”

    See what comes up, then engage and evaluate the outcome.

    看看自己的内心反应如何,然后全力以赴、静待结果吧。

    4. Engage your shadow

    了解阴暗面

    Many of us who are on the personal development path get caught up in embracing characteristics we want to have, like happiness, compassion10, love, and passion. In this pursuit we end up losing parts of ourselves that make us whole, such as suppressing our negative qualities instead of engaging them. Try asking yourself a few questions:

    很多人在成长过程中都或多或少养成期望的性格,比如快乐、同情、爱心以及激情等等;与此同时,我们也会陷入消极压抑的品性。这时,你就要问问自己:

    What parts of myself could I do without?

    我有哪些可以完全抛弃的性格?

    How do I get in my own way?

    有哪些品性会妨碍我的成长?

    Is there anything I’m hiding from myself?

    我对自己是不是足够诚实坦白?

    Don’t be afraid of what comes out; you might want to run from the answers, but instead, acknowledge them and be with them as much as possible. Once you’re a little clearer about what exactly you’ve been hiding, from it gets easier to shine your light on it.

    别害怕最终得出的结果,也别逃避,相反,你应该面对并尽量接受现实。如果你能确切了解自己的阴暗面,也就更容易去改正。

    5. Spend time alone

    享受独处

    For most of our lives we’re surrounded by people: our friends, colleagues, peers, family members, loved ones, and strangers. How often do we really spend time alone?

    大部分人身边总不缺陪伴:朋友、同事、同伴、亲人、爱侣,还有陌生人。那么,怎样才能真正独处呢?

    When you spend time in solitude11, you’re free from the influences of other people, and can truly open yourself and explore whatever you’d like. See where your thoughts take you. The golden ticket here is to not let yourself become distracted; just see what it’s like to be alone.

    独处使人免受他人干扰,能让我们真正敞开心怀去探究所喜所恶,让自己跟着思绪游走——一定要保持专心,用心体会独处的曼妙。

    It might be painful or even scary at first, but by opening yourself up to these new feelings, you’ll add a whole new layer of depth, experience, and understanding into your life.

    一开始可能会感到痛苦甚至惶恐,可一旦敞开心胸面对这些感受,你便能达到更高一层境界,收获别样的经验,也更理解自己的生活。

    6. Get outside of yourself

    走出自我

    This may seem a little contradictory12 to the last tip, but in reality, they actually work hand-in-hand. After you’ve explored the depths of yourself, you come away with a new understanding.

    这和前一个建议貌似有点矛盾,但其实两者却是相辅相成的。独处之后,你对自己获得了全新了解。

    Now, it’s time to share that — not through telling others, but through being with others.

    然后,你应该把它分享出来——当然,这不是要你直接把它告知与人,而是要求你通过与人交往进行分享。

    When you’re in a group of people, try to give them your full energy and attention so you can understand them just as you did yourself. Appreciate their uniqueness, as if they are an extension of you. Lose yourself in the beauty of others; see what they can teach you about yourself.

    当你与人交往时,请试着用心去了解他们,就好比你用心了解自己一样。感同身受地欣赏他们的个性、观察他们的优点,看看自己能从中学到什么。

    Remember, there’s no need to do every one of these at the same time. Take each one a day at a time, determine which work best for you, and see what you can discover.

    请记住:以上建议并不要求你一气呵成,你可以每天尝试一个,选择最适合自己的建议,看看自己能从中收获什么。

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    1 soften [ˈsɒfn] 6w0wk   第7级
    vt.(使)变柔软;(使)变柔和;vi.减轻;变柔和;变柔软
    参考例句:
    • Plastics will soften when exposed to heat. 塑料适当加热就可以软化。
    • This special cream will help to soften up our skin. 这种特殊的护肤霜有助于使皮肤变得柔软。
    2 deflect [dɪˈflekt] RxvxG   第9级
    vt.&vi.(使)偏斜,(使)偏离,(使)转向
    参考例句:
    • Never let a little problem deflect you. 决不要因一点小问题就半途而废。
    • They decided to deflect from the original plan. 他们决定改变原计划。
    3 fleeting [ˈfli:tɪŋ] k7zyS   第9级
    adj.短暂的,飞逝的
    参考例句:
    • The girls caught only a fleeting glimpse of the driver. 女孩们只匆匆瞥了一眼司机。
    • Knowing the life fleeting, she set herself to enjoy if as best as she could. 她知道这种日子转瞬即逝,于是让自已尽情地享受。
    4 utilizing [ˈju:tilaizɪŋ] fbe1505f632dff25652a1730952a6464   第8级
    v.利用,使用( utilize的现在分词 )
    参考例句:
    • Utilizing an assembler to produce a machine-language program. 用汇编程序产生机器语言的过程。 来自辞典例句
    • The study and use of devices utilizing properties of materials near absolute zero in temperature. 对材料在接近绝对零度时的特性进行研究和利用的学科。 来自辞典例句
    5 stagnate [stægˈneɪt] PGqzj   第12级
    vi. 停滞;淤塞;变萧条 vt. 使淤塞;使沉滞;使萧条
    参考例句:
    • Where the masses are not roused, work will stagnate. 哪里不发动群众,哪里的工作就死气沉沉。
    • Taiwan's economy is likely to stagnate for a long time to come. 台湾经济很可能会停滞很长一段时间。
    6 discomfort [dɪsˈkʌmfət] cuvxN   第8级
    n.不舒服,不安,难过,困难,不方便
    参考例句:
    • One has to bear a little discomfort while travelling. 旅行中总要忍受一点不便。
    • She turned red with discomfort when the teacher spoke. 老师讲话时她不好意思地红着脸。
    7 pros [prəʊz] pros   第8级
    abbr.prosecuting 起诉;prosecutor 起诉人;professionals 自由职业者;proscenium (舞台)前部n.赞成的意见( pro的名词复数 );赞成的理由;抵偿物;交换物
    参考例句:
    • The pros and cons cancel out. 正反两种意见抵消。 来自《现代英汉综合大词典》
    • We should hear all the pros and cons of the matter before we make a decision. 我们在对这事做出决定之前,应该先听取正反两方面的意见。 来自《简明英汉词典》
    8 cons [kɔnz] eec38a6d10735a91d1247a80b5e213a6   第7级
    n.欺骗,骗局( con的名词复数 )v.诈骗,哄骗( con的第三人称单数 )
    参考例句:
    • The pros and cons cancel out. 正反两种意见抵消。 来自《现代英汉综合大词典》
    • We should hear all the pros and cons of the matter before we make a decision. 我们在对这事做出决定之前,应该先听取正反两方面的意见。 来自《简明英汉词典》
    9 gut [gʌt] MezzP   第7级
    n.[pl.]胆量;内脏;adj.本能的;vt.取出内脏
    参考例句:
    • It is not always necessary to gut the fish prior to freezing. 冷冻鱼之前并不总是需要先把内脏掏空。
    • My immediate gut feeling was to refuse. 我本能的直接反应是拒绝。
    10 compassion [kəmˈpæʃn] 3q2zZ   第8级
    n.同情,怜悯
    参考例句:
    • He could not help having compassion for the poor creature. 他情不自禁地怜悯起那个可怜的人来。
    • Her heart was filled with compassion for the motherless children. 她对于没有母亲的孩子们充满了怜悯心。
    11 solitude [ˈsɒlɪtju:d] xF9yw   第7级
    n. 孤独; 独居,荒僻之地,幽静的地方
    参考例句:
    • People need a chance to reflect on spiritual matters in solitude. 人们需要独处的机会来反思精神上的事情。
    • They searched for a place where they could live in solitude. 他们寻找一个可以过隐居生活的地方。
    12 contradictory [ˌkɒntrəˈdɪktəri] VpazV   第8级
    adj.反驳的,反对的,抗辩的;n.正反对,矛盾对立
    参考例句:
    • The argument is internally contradictory. 论据本身自相矛盾。
    • What he said was self-contradictory. 他讲话前后不符。

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