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为什么要和某人分手,即使你很爱他/她?
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  • Deciding to break up with someone is rarely easy. It's made even harder when you are breaking up with someone you love. No matter what your friends or family tell you, ending it with a significant other only comes when you realize that this person is more of a negative than a positive in your life.

    决定分手并不容易。与相爱之人分手更为困难。无论你的朋友或家人是怎么跟你说的,你只应在这种情况下与另一半结束这段感情:当你意识到他在你生活中扮演的负面角色大于正面角色时。

    Looking at the big picture and how your partner impacts you can allow you to make a wise and thought out decision. While it may be hard to see at the time, there are quite a few reasons to break up with someone even if you love them.

    纵观大局,想象另一半对你的影响会让你做出明智而深思熟虑的决定。虽然当时可能难以看清,但即使你很爱他/她,这些理由却足以让你离开他/她。

    1. You can't trust them.

    1. 你无法相信他/她。

    No matter how much you love someone, you need to be able to trust them. Trust is absolutely paramount1 in a relationship. According to a study from Northwestern University and Redeemer University College in Ontario, Canada, those who have trust their partners are more likely to be in long-term and successful relationships, proving just how important that trust is.

    无论你多么爱一个人,你都应该能够相信他/她。谈恋爱时信任很重要。美国西北大学和加拿大安大略省的救世主大学开展的一项研究表明:信任另一半的人的恋情更有可能长久、成功,这也证明了信任的重要性。

    2. They are emotionally manipulative.

    2. 他们在情感上喜欢操纵。

    From telling you that every argument is your fault to acting2 as if they can't live without you, an emotionally manipulative partner brings down your self-worth and leaves you relying on them.

    从告诉你每一次争吵都是你的错到表现得他们离开你就活不下去,情感上喜欢操纵别人的另一半会降低你的自我价值,让你变得依赖他们。

    "Healthy social influence occurs between most people, and is part of the give and take of constructive3 relationships," Preston Ni, wrote in Psychology4 Today. "In psychological manipulation, one person is used for the benefit of another. The manipulator deliberately5 creates an imbalance of power and exploits the victim to serve his or her agenda."

    "健康社会影响发生在大多数人身上,是建设性恋情给予与索取的一部分,"Preston Ni在《今日心理学》中写道。"在心理操纵中,为了自己的利益,他/她会利用另一半。操纵者故意造成权利失衡的假象,剥削受害者为他/她做事。"

    3. They isolate6 you from your friends.

    3. 他们不让你见自己的朋友。

    Does your significant other get mad when you choose to hang out with your friends and not them? Do they speak negatively of others in your life? This tactic7 leaves you isolated8 from other support in your life and makes you rely more heavily on them, which can be a sign things are toxic9.

    当你选择和朋友而非另一半出去玩的时候,他/她会不会抓狂?他们会不会说你熟人的坏话?这一策略让你远离生活中其他人的支持,让你更依赖他们,这也是事情变质的一个迹象。

    4. The distance is too much.

    4. 你们相距甚远。

    While, despite what you might have heard, long distance can work, that doesn't mean it's easy and it's certainly not for everyone.

    虽然你可能听别人说异地恋是可以有结果的,但这并不意味着异地恋很容易维系,而且并不是所有人都适合异地恋。

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    1 paramount [ˈpærəmaʊnt] fL9xz   第9级
    adj.最重要的,最高权力的
    参考例句:
    • My paramount object is to save the Union and destroy slavery. 我的最高目标是拯救美国,摧毁奴隶制度。
    • Nitrogen is of paramount importance to life on earth. 氮对地球上的生命至关重要。
    2 acting [ˈæktɪŋ] czRzoc   第7级
    n.演戏,行为,假装;adj.代理的,临时的,演出用的
    参考例句:
    • Ignore her, she's just acting. 别理她,她只是假装的。
    • During the seventies, her acting career was in eclipse. 在七十年代,她的表演生涯黯然失色。
    3 constructive [kənˈstrʌktɪv] AZDyr   第8级
    adj.建设的,建设性的
    参考例句:
    • We welcome constructive criticism. 我们乐意接受有建设性的批评。
    • He is beginning to deal with his anger in a constructive way. 他开始用建设性的方法处理自己的怒气。
    4 psychology [saɪˈkɒlədʒi] U0Wze   第7级
    n.心理,心理学,心理状态
    参考例句:
    • She has a background in child psychology. 她受过儿童心理学的教育。
    • He studied philosophy and psychology at Cambridge. 他在剑桥大学学习哲学和心理学。
    5 deliberately [dɪˈlɪbərətli] Gulzvq   第7级
    adv.审慎地;蓄意地;故意地
    参考例句:
    • The girl gave the show away deliberately. 女孩故意泄露秘密。
    • They deliberately shifted off the argument. 他们故意回避这个论点。
    6 isolate [ˈaɪsəleɪt] G3Exu   第7级
    vt.使孤立,隔离
    参考例句:
    • Do not isolate yourself from others. 不要把自己孤立起来。
    • We should never isolate ourselves from the masses. 我们永远不能脱离群众。
    7 tactic [ˈtæktɪk] Yqowc   第8级
    n.战略,策略;adj.战术的,有策略的
    参考例句:
    • Reducing prices is a common sales tactic. 降价是常用的销售策略。
    • She had often used the tactic of threatening to resign. 她惯用以辞职相威胁的手法。
    8 isolated ['aisəleitid] bqmzTd   第7级
    adj.与世隔绝的
    参考例句:
    • His bad behaviour was just an isolated incident. 他的不良行为只是个别事件。
    • Patients with the disease should be isolated. 这种病的患者应予以隔离。
    9 toxic [ˈtɒksɪk] inSwc   第7级
    adj.有毒的,因中毒引起的
    参考例句:
    • The factory had accidentally released a quantity of toxic waste into the sea. 这家工厂意外泄漏大量有毒废物到海中。
    • There is a risk that toxic chemicals might be blasted into the atmosphere. 爆炸后有毒化学物质可能会进入大气层。

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