You've got several choices when a situation's heating up: you can pass the buck by trying to place blame (let's not do that), you can commiserate (a little of this can help, but use it sparingly), or you can state the problem as you see it, and welcome solutions.
You've got several choices when a situation's heating up: you can pass the buck by trying to place blame (let's not do that), you can commiserate (a little of this can help, but use it sparingly), or you can state the problem as you see it, and welcome solutions.
The worst thing to do in this situation is to commiserate with her because that will only encourage more bad-mouthing.
'She would commiserate, I think, to feel close to me,' he says.
