“We are honored to welcome the son of a man such as yourself into our family,” he said. “Your reputation precedes you. I was your humble¹ admirer in Kabul and remain so today. We are honored that your family and ours will be joined. “像你这样的男人的儿子成为我们的家人，我们很荣幸。”他说，“你声誉卓著，在喀布尔，我就是你谦卑的崇拜者，今天也是如此。你家和我家结成姻亲，这让我们觉得荣幸。”

“Amirjan, as for you, I welcome you to my home as a son, as the husband of my daughter who is the noor of my eye. Your pain will be our pain, your joy our joy. I hope that you will come to see your Khala Jamila and me as a second set of parents, and I pray for your and our lovely Soraya jan’s happiness. You both have our blessings².” “亲爱的阿米尔，至于你，我欢迎你到我的家里来，你是我们的女婿，是我掌上明珠的丈夫。今后我们休戚与共。我希望你能够将亲爱的雅米拉和我当成你的父母，我会为你和亲爱的索拉雅祷告，愿你们幸福。我们祝福你们俩。 ”

Everyone applauded, and with that signal, heads turned toward the hallway. The moment I’d waited for. 每个人鼓起掌来，在掌声中，人们把头转向走廊。那一刻我等待已久。索拉雅在那端出现。

Soraya appeared at the end. Dressed in a stunning³ winecolored traditional Afghan dress with long sleeves and gold trimmings. Baba’s hand took mine and tightened⁴. Khanum Taheri burst into fresh tears. Slowly, Soraya caine to us, tailed by a procession of young female relatives.She kissed my father’s hands. Sat beside me at last, her eyes downcast.The applause swelled⁵. 她穿着酒红色的传统阿富汗服装，长长的袖子，配着黄金镶饰，真是惊艳夺目。爸爸紧紧抓着我的手。塔赫里太太又哭了。索拉雅慢慢地向我们走来，身后跟着一群年轻的女性亲戚。她亲了亲爸爸的手。终于坐在我身边，眼光低垂。掌声响起。

ACCORDING TO TRADITION, Soraya’s family would have thrown the engagement party the Shirini-khori---or “Eating of the Sweets” ceremony. Then an engagement period would have followed which would have lasted a few months. Then the wedding, which would be paid for by Baba. 根据传统，索拉雅家里会举办订婚宴会，也就是所谓“食蜜”仪式。之后是订婚期，一连持续几个月。随后是婚礼，所有费用将由爸爸支付。

We all agreed that Soraya and I would forgo⁶ the Shirini-khori. Everyone knew the reason, so no one had to actually say it: that Baba didn’t have months to live. 我们全部人都同意索拉雅和我省略掉“食蜜”仪式。原因大家都知道，虽然没人真的说出来：爸爸没几个月好活了。

Soraya and I never went out alone together while preparations for the wedding proceeded--since we weren’t married yet, hadn’t even had a Shirini-khori, it was considered improper⁷. So I had to make do with going over to the Taheris with Baba for dinner. Sit across from Soraya at the dinner table. Imagine what it would be like to feel her head on my chest, smell her hair. Kiss her. Make love to her. 在筹备婚礼期间，索拉雅和我从无独处的机会——因为我们还没有结婚，甚至连订婚都没有，那于礼不合。所以我只好满足于跟爸爸一起，到塔赫里家用晚餐。晚餐桌上，索拉雅坐在我对面。我想像着她把头放在我胸膛上，闻着她的秀发，那该是什么感觉呢？我想像着亲吻她，跟她做爱。

Baba spent $35,000, nearly the balance of his life savings⁸, on the awroussi, the wedding ceremony. He rented a large Afghan banquet hail in Fremont--the man who owned it knew him from Kabul and gave him a substantial discount. Baba paid for the ??chi las, our matching wedding bands, and for the diamond ring I picked out. He bought my tuxedo⁹, and my traditional green suit for the nika--the swearing ceremony. For all the frenzied¹⁰ preparations that went into the wedding night--most of it, blessedly, by Khanum Taheri and her friends-- I remember only a handful of moments from it. 为了婚礼，爸爸花了三万五千美元，那几乎是他毕生的积蓄。他在弗里蒙特租了个很大的阿富汗宴会厅，老板是他在喀布尔的旧识，给了他优惠的折扣。爸爸请来了乐队，给我挑选的钻石戒指付款，给我买燕尾服，还有在誓约仪式要穿的传统绿色套装。在为婚礼之夜所做的全部乱糟糟的准备一幸好多数由塔赫里太太和她的朋友帮忙——中，我只记得屈指可数的几件事。

I remember our nika. We were seated around a table, Soraya and I dressed in green--the color of Islam, but also the color of spring and new beginnings. I wore a suit, Soraya (the only woman at the table) a veiled long-sleeved dress. Baba, General Taheri (in a tuxedo this time), and several of Soraya’s uncles were also present at the table. Soraya and I looked down, solemnly respectful, casting only sideway glances at each other. The mullah questioned the witnesses and read from the Koran. We said our oaths. Signed the certificates. One of Soraya’s uncles from Virginia, Sharif jan, Khanum Taheri’s brother, stood up and cleared his throat. Soraya had told me that he had lived in the U.S. for more than twenty years. He worked for the INS and had an American wife. He was also a poet. A small man with a birdlike face and fluffy¹¹ hair, he read a lengthy¹² poem dedicated¹³ to Soraya, jotted¹⁴ down on hotel stationery¹⁵ paper. “Wah wah, Sharifjan!” everyone exclaimed when he finished. 我记得我们的誓约仪式。大家围着一张桌子坐下，索拉雅和我穿着绿色的衣服——伊斯兰的颜色，但也是春天和新起点的颜色。我穿着套装，索拉雅（桌子上惟一的女子）蒙着面，穿长袖衣服。爸爸、塔赫里将军（这回他穿着燕尾服）还有索拉雅几个叔伯舅舅也坐在桌子上。索拉雅和我低着头，表情神圣而庄重，只能偷偷斜视对方。毛拉向证人提问，读起《可兰经》。我们发誓，在结婚证书上签名。索拉雅的舅舅，塔赫里太太的兄弟，来自弗吉尼亚，站起来，清清他的喉咙。索拉雅曾告诉过我，他在美国生活已经超过二十年。他在移民局工作，娶了个美国老婆。他还是个诗人，个子矮小，鸟儿似的脸庞，头发蓬松。他念了一首献给索拉雅的长诗，那是草草写在酒店的信纸上。“哇！哇！亲爱的沙利夫！ ”他一念完，每个人都欢呼起来。

I remember walking toward the stage, now in my tuxedo, Soraya a veiled pan in white, our hands locked. Baba hobbled next to me, the general and his wife beside their daughter. A procession of uncles, aunts, and cousins followed as we made our way through the hail, parting a sea of applauding guests, blinking at flashing cameras. One of Soraya’s cousins, Sharif jan’s son, held a Koran over our heads as we inched along. The wedding song, ahesta boro, blared from the speakers, the same song the Russian soldier at the Mahipar checkpoint had sung the night Baba and I left Kabul:Make morning into a key and throw it into the well,Go slowly, my lovely moon, go slowly. Let the morning sun forget to rise in the east, Go slowly, my lovely moon, go slowly. 我记得走向台上的情景，当时我穿着燕尾服，索拉雅蒙着面，穿着白色礼服，我们挽着手。爸爸紧挨着我，将军和他太太在他们的女儿那边，身后跟着一群亲戚，我们走向宴会厅。两旁是鼓掌喝彩的宾客，还有闪个不停的镜头。我和索拉雅并排站着，她的表弟，亲爱的沙利夫的儿子，在我们头上举起《可兰经》。扬声器传来婚礼歌谣，慢慢走，就是爸爸和我离开喀布尔那天晚上，玛希帕检查站那个俄国兵唱的那首。将清晨化成钥匙，扔到水井去慢慢走，我心爱的月亮，慢慢走让朝阳忘记从东方升起慢慢走，我心爱的月亮，慢慢走

I remember sitting on the sofa, set on the stage like a throne, Soraya’s hand in mine, as three hundred or so faces looked on. We did Ayena Masshaf, where they gave us a mirror and threw a veil over our heads, so we’d be alone to gaze at each other’s reflection. Looking at Soraya’s smiling face in that mirror, in the momentary¹⁶ privacy of the veil, I whispered to her for the first time that I loved her. A blush, red like henna, bloomed on her cheeks. 我记得我们坐在沙发上，舞台上那对沙发好像王位，索拉雅拉着我的手，大约三百位客人注视着我们。我们举行另外的仪式。在那儿，人们拿给我们一面镜子，在我们头上覆上一条纱巾，留下我们两个凝望彼此在镜子中的容颜。看到镜子中索拉雅笑靥如花，我第一次低声对她说我爱她。一阵指甲花般的红晕在她脸庞绽放。

I picture colorful platters of chopan kabob, sholeh-goshti, and wild-orange rice. I see Baba between us on the sofa, smiling. I remember sweat-drenched men dancing the traditional attan in a circle, bouncing, spinning faster and faster with the feverish¹⁷ tempo¹⁸ of the tabla, until all but a few dropped out of the ring with exhaustion¹⁹. I remember wishing Rahim Khan were there. And I remember wondering if Hassan too had married. And if so, whose face he had seen in the mirror under the veil? Whose henna-painted hands had he held? 我记得各色佳肴，有烤肉，炖肉饭，野橙子饭。我看见爸爸夹在我们两个中间，坐在沙发上，面带微笑。我记得浑身大汗的男人围成一圈，跳着传统舞蹈，他们跳跃着，在手鼓热烈的节拍之下越转越快，直到有人精疲力竭，退出那个圆圈。我记得我希望拉辛汗也在。并且，我还记得，我寻思哈桑是不是也结婚了。如果是的话，他蒙着头巾，在镜子中看到的那张脸是谁呢？他手里握着那涂了指甲花的手是谁的？