Are you trying to be a perfect mom? You are not alone. Most moms strive¹ for perfection² and this is the main reason why they think they are bad moms. The thing is, there is no such thing as a perfect mom and nobody is actually perfect. Everyone makes mistakes and it’s not as bad as you think. If you want to make your experience of motherhood better, here are several reasons to stop trying to be a perfect mom.

你想成为一个完美的妈妈吗?你并不孤单。大多数妈妈们精益求精,这是主要为什么他们认为他们是坏妈妈的原因。事情是这样的,没有所谓的完美的妈妈,没有人是完美的。每个人都会犯错误,这并不像你想的那么糟。如果你想让你有更好的经验做母亲,这里有几个停止努力成为一个完美妈妈的原因。

1. Children will strive for perfection

孩子们会争取完美

When you are trying to do everything perfect and you are obsessed³ with being perfect, you children will strive for perfection too. They will be afraid to make mistakes and they will have a very low self-esteem. Can you forgive yourself when you make a mistake? Don’t dwell⁴ on your past failures and mistakes. When you make a mistake, there’s actually a lesson for you to learn. Learning from mistakes helps your children develop and grow and you should realize it now when they are small.

当你想把一切做完美,你沉迷于完美的一切,你的孩子也会精益求精。他们会害怕犯错,他们会有一个非常低的自尊。你能原谅你自己当初犯的错误吗?不要沉湎于过去的失败和错误。当你犯错误时,实际上是给你学习的一课。从错误中学习可以帮助孩子发展和成长, 你现在应该意识到这些，当他们很小时。

2. Do your best

尽力而为

I’ve always told my daughter that I don’t expect perfection out of her in anything she does, however I expect her to do her best. My daughter knows that I don’t strive for perfection, but I always do my best. Parents set examples for kids, so stop trying to be a perfect mom, instead focus on being the best mother you can be and allow yourself room for some imperfections. Your children will do their best and will know that it’s okay to make mistakes every now and then.

我一直告诉我的女儿,我不希望她把一切做的完美,但是我希望她尽力而为。我女儿知道,我不追求完美,但我总是尽力而为。父母为孩子们树立榜样,所以不要试图成为一个完美的妈妈,而不是专注于做最好的母亲,让自己有些不完美的空间。你的孩子们将竭尽全力,并知道它时不时的犯错误是好的。

3. The perfect mom doesn’t exist

一个完美的妈妈根本不存在

Nobody is perfect and the perfect mom doesn’t exist. When you’re trying to be a perfect mother, you’re aiming for something that is impossible. It’s possible to be a great mom, but not perfect. Realize it and start enjoying your motherhood. It’s wonderful to be a mother, so don’t waste your time attempting to make everything perfect.

没有人是完美的,完美的妈妈根本不存在。当你想成为一个完美的母亲,你的目标是不可能的事情。可以成为一个伟大的妈妈,但不是完美的。意识到它,并开始享受你做母亲的时光。成为一个母亲是很棒的,所以不要浪费时间试图让一切完美。

4. You’re stressing your family out

你强调你的家人

Striving⁵ for perfection is a hollow goal that can never be reached. When one family member strives⁶ for perfection, the whole family suffers. It leads to misunderstandings and can even cause lots of fights. We all want a happy family and I think this is a sound reason to stop trying being a perfect mom.

追求完美是一个空心的永远无法企及的目标。当一个家庭成员精益求精,整个家庭受苦。它会导致误解,甚至可以引起很多争吵。我们都想要一个幸福的家庭,我认为这是一个听起来很好的停止尝试成为一个完美的妈妈的理由。

5. You’re stressing yourself out

你强调自己

Striving for perfection is extremely stressful. Stress affects your health and you can’t enjoy your motherhood because you are constantly stressing yourself out. You should always keep in mind that perfection makes people miserable⁷. Do your best, be happy and be confident in being the mom that you are. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

追求完美是非常有压力的。压力会影响你的健康,你不能享受你的做母亲的时光,因为你不断强调自己。你应该记住,完美让人痛苦。做你最好的,快乐和自信的妈妈。从你的错误中吸取教训,继续前进。

6. You can become unbalanced

你可以变得不平衡

If you’re focused on one area of life, you can become unbalanced and it’s a bad thing. While being a mom is an important position and one of your top priorities⁸, it’s bad to focus only on it. You may be a girlfriend, a wife, a sister, a daughter or an employee. These positions need effort and attention, too, so don’t forget about them.

如果你专注于一个领域,你会变得不平衡,这是一件坏事。虽然作为一个妈妈是一个很重要的位置,你的首要任务之一,只关注它不好。你可能是一个女朋友,一个妻子,一个姐姐,一个女儿或员工。这些职位需要精力和注意力,所以不要忘记他们。

7. Make progress

取得进步

Instead of trying to be a perfect mom, try to make progress in all areas of motherhood. Again, mistakes are good and you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself. Realize that you are a wonderful mother and wife. You don’t have to be an ideal mother. Your children love you for who you are, remember it.

不是努力成为一个完美的妈妈,而是试图所有领域取得进展在做母亲的时光。再一次,错误是好的,你不应该对自己太苛刻。意识到你是一个很棒的母亲和妻子。你不必是一个理想的母亲。你的孩子爱你因为你是你,记住它。

No matter how hard you try, you won’t become a perfect mom. Try to be a wonderful mom and spend more time with your kids instead of dwelling⁹ on your mistakes. Are you striving for perfection?

无论你怎样努力尝试,你都不会成为一个完美的妈妈。试着成为一个很棒的妈妈和花更多的时间和你的孩子在一起,而不是停留在你的错误。你还在追求完美吗?